ZestyPickle
ZestyPickle

Solitude or Lonliness

Hey guys,

Is there anyone else besides me who is living alone in a city away from home. Without any friends or much social life.

What is your anchor/baseline to keep doing it.

Like motivation for career can fuel till certain extent, emotional burnout is real, even if there is storm in personal life

Crazy thing happened today- I got the worst headache and bodypain, my brain numbed. I had no one to call, and somehow I accepted whatever happens next. It was one hell of a feeling

Any thoughts?

PS: Writing this after relief from Dolo 650

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WigglyMochi
WigglyMochi

You are alone for sure but not alone in this situation. Half of boys who are working in another city are facing the same. Trust me. All you gotta do is Hold On. Good things will come soon.

ZestyPickle
ZestyPickle

I hope so man!!

WobblyTaco
WobblyTaco

Try alcohol guys

GigglyBurrito
GigglyBurrito
EY16d

There's another side of the coin, I would die to live alone from my narcissistic incapable family.

GigglyUnicorn
GigglyUnicorn

+1

ZestyPickle
ZestyPickle

Almost every middle class Indian family is narcissistic to a certain extent, everyone has childhood wounds and traumas. Question is once you start living alone and sit with yourself, what do you do. Will take some months to stabilize but then what?? That’s where I am

DancingTaco
DancingTaco

I took 15L person loan with 12% intrest rate and my motivation was very high since then.

ZestyPickle
ZestyPickle

😂😂

TwirlyDonut
TwirlyDonut

😄 what was the purpose?

FuzzyPenguin
FuzzyPenguin

Build a routine. That'll keep you occupied.

Try hitting the gym. It helped me a lot.

ZestyPickle
ZestyPickle

Trying brother!

CosmicNarwhal
CosmicNarwhal

It looks good initially, but difficult to keep up that motivation when you have no one to share that routine with.

WobblyCupcake
WobblyCupcake

Get married

ZestyPickle
ZestyPickle

Lol no. Don’t want more headaches

ZestyPickle
ZestyPickle

I mean, I see the news and I have full faith in my destiny. I will be fu***d by Indian law badly

PeppyNugget
PeppyNugget

I was in a similar situation 10 years ago

I used to go theater to watch movies alone
Used to learn and teach juniors online, earning extra income, and used to enjoy investing some portion

Also used to go iskon to understand scientific Geeta courses and got few people to interact with

Also used to visit hometown regular basis without thinking about travel fare amount

We should invest money on ourselves, it could be anything which makes you happy like learning, shopping eating out, giving gifts, etc

All the best

ZestyPickle
ZestyPickle

Thanks.

FluffyNarwhal
FluffyNarwhal

Hope you're feeling better. Even if you're alone, try to find some people to be with. You never want your family to worry about you and they will feel helpless knowing this. This will be very bad if things get worse. Ask for help, most people help when they see someone in trouble...

ZestyPickle
ZestyPickle

Due to past events , I naturally don’t trust people enough to be friends with them. I noticed this very recently.

TwirlyWaffle
TwirlyWaffle

Bro get a pet either a dog or cat.... U will just enjoy this would change ur life.....

ZestyPickle
ZestyPickle

Interesting, will think about it

CosmicNarwhal
CosmicNarwhal

Who will entertain and look after that pet when he is away for work. It also gets bored with no one around similar to humans and requires to socialize. He will at least get that when he is at work, but nothing for the pet. 😢

CosmicRaccoon
CosmicRaccoon

One suggestion which I can give from my bachelor days is to stay with flat mates or room mates. At-least they would be able to help you out. If you are straight out of college, best is to stay with your batchmates.

ZestyPickle
ZestyPickle

I am not a fresher. My friends moved to different cities as they switched companies. Sadly I prefer to live alone lol. Suffering is inevitable

DancingBoba
DancingBoba

Can we be friends?

JumpyRaccoon
JumpyRaccoon
TCS16d

🙌🏻are you from Bangalore?

ZestyPickle
ZestyPickle

Thanks guys. Sure, I’m not from BLR.

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