How to be happy?
I am 21 years old. I have good offers (20lac+) from good companies, but I am not happy.
I always feel that something is missing in life, I don't know what and why I feel so.
I tried to get in a relationship, but whenever I express this feeling, things get bad between both of us. I really want to love and get loved.
I have been living my life alone for about 3 years now. I want to make friends, and I want to be in a relationship, but the last 3 years have not been nice to me because of which I don't like going out and having fun.
I was in a depression and a workaholic nerd for the past years and feel that now I have got wired in such a way which is not letting me have fun and enjoy life.
I find myself lonely.
Whenever I don't have anything to work on, I get anxious, and I get this question, what am I doing with life.
Maybe I am feeling lonely while writing this post and may sound little gone case.
Open to your suggestions, do share your stories if you have been through this phase.
Is it normal to feel like this?
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Sorry, but you cannot "want to" be in a relationship. It doesn't work that way. And 21 is the perfect age where everybody starts seeking validation and you seem to be having a feeling of not being validated by anyone. If you are having an urgency to fall into a relationship you will only be trying to find an answer to your loneliness but nothing meaningful will come out of it. And it won't last too!
At this age you will find that everyone else around you is in a relationship and having fun. That's just peer pressure. Please try to do things where you're discovering and exploring yourself better. This is not the age to feel unhappy about life. And falling in a relationship isn't the solution to everything. Life is only going to get much difficult from here. Don't crumble for this!
Thanks BrisbaneBunny, this is so much insightful!!
Falling in relationship isn't solution for everything,
Failing is - Ft Janardan (Jordan) from Rockstar 🎸
Yes it is normal to feel lonely. But if you get into an relationship just to remove your loneliness that might not be normal from my view.. This might cause long term damage to you.
Explore yourself. If you feel lonely. What life is, what you want from it. Etc etc
Even if you get into a relationship, the loneliness might stay. Since it is coming form your inside. Unless you fix it from inside. Outsiders might not be able to do
First step, start journaling
Next accept your current self
love yourself and build self respect Only after you love yourself, you really start loving others
Next visualize your best self and work towards it . Dont over commit, keep small goals.
You can do it 👍
Helpful!!
Seems like you are depressed .. please seek therapy .. and improve your lifestyle.. food habits, sleep and exercise.. talk with friends, go out.. wish you well
Strong suggestion: getting into relationships will not remove loneliness out of your life. It will exacerbate it - instead make some good, loyal friends and stay close to your family and relatives.
Slap on some Andrew tate and go to the gym. Capitalism awaits
Go out mate or
Start any outdoor sports or any hobby!
you will Meet like minded people
Also start following this guy - Swetabh Gangwar on YT(He gives excellent points with things like your current situation)and start running at least 3 or 4 times a week.
Most of the things you are missing are free. Just start looking for it.
Go to gym and do walking