SwirlyNugget
SwirlyNugget

Not Sure How I can come out of this🄲

Hello Everyone, Not sure if I should post this may delete later. I am going through some psychological pressure now a days due to family situations. Before moving forward I want to mention that I belong to a middle class family currently not having own house and vehicle also. I am living in a rented apartment with my family members Papa , mummy and elder brother. My father is retired from last 10 yrs and my elder brother was working in a telecom company 2 yrs back ( Currently not working anywhere from past 2 yrs and earlier company got bankrupt so did not paid salary also from 2.5 yrs ). It seems my brother confidence got loose or he is not able to find another job as he was in the same company from past 10 yrs. 2 yrs back a bad thing happened with him that his engagement cancelled with so and so reason. Now he even seems not interested in looking for job and only reading some books in mobile or watching video. My parents are very tensed about his marriage and always tell me about it as he don't talk much to anyone neither friend nor family.

I am totally lost that how should I handle this situation. Any suggestions from the people who has seen or experience this kind of situation.

Thanks in advance for your responsešŸ™

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GoofyPickle
GoofyPickle
TCS9mo

You can do one thing. Invite his old friends. I am not sure but maybe his friends suggested some work...

DancingPanda
DancingPanda

Try to engage him in something he used to do in past

SwirlyNugget
SwirlyNugget
IBM9mo

@LumpyLanguage Thanks for the suggestion but his friends either out of country or too far. One is here but he also tried to help him but no luck yet and telecom sector is very bad growth so not much job.

DancingPretzel
DancingPretzel
TCS9mo

Tell him that your family is in support of his saying and don't do any kind of blame game on family or on him. Support him in a way that he moves on and tell him there are plenty of people with good hearts and don't encourage him towards drinking or smoking. Motivate him to take up new carrier opportunities and learn new things so that he will be motivated and try new things to come out of it. Self experience and got married now it really requires family support. Make jokes be happy ask parents to avoid that topic strictly and don't raise what's done earlier. Life is there to move towards future not to get reminded of what's done in past. Relatives always try to raise what happens in past ask him to make new friends if needed.

SwirlyNugget
SwirlyNugget
IBM9mo

@PMVKarthik you are right and family should support in this case and I am also trying to support as much as possible but the thing is i am not sure i should say this but my mother (very good by heart) but she don't listen anything anyone tell and have a habit of speaking up everything ( maybe it could be in the other family as well ) i tried to explain her many time but didn't work. There is always fight btw mom dad on little things. I just got frustrated with this although i am very calm person. I am clueless on whether he should get married in this situation. I don't know why i am sharing these things here but the thing is cannot share with anyone else also whom i know.

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