Marriage with Hyper Career focused Girl
Can anyone help with Pros and Cons of marrying hyper career focused girl? If someone married such a girl - how did it turn out? Hyper Career focused - Priortizes Job over Family life.
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If you're earning well, don't marry a working girl... if you're not earning that much, then first earn well and still don't marry a working girl
Oh damn. Why?
The only man she needs in her life is her husband, not her boss, not her male friends. A wife needs to take care of kids, in laws, it's her duty to be in command of house and it's man job to make money and protect family.
Depends on the career. If she is professional who can be self employed (like doctor/lawyer/CA.CS) then go ahead. Anything else run. If she is a software engineer, run faster. Dont look back , just run .
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She is a CA but does not want to start own practice.
IMO, one of the major objectives of marriage is starting a new family (ideally with kids but not necessarily).
If family is second priority for someone, it could not be more misaligned with the objectives of marriage.
Being hyper-focussed on anything, by the definition of hyper-focussed, usually means everything else suffers. If you're hyper-focussed on family, your career responsibilities would suffer. If you're hyper-focussed on career, your family responsibilities would suffer.
So if you're not looking for someone to build a family with, marriage with such a girl might work out. Otherwise, it would be pretty challenging IMO.
Pros You can lead a much better quality of life given double income You can also save more and retire faster if north of you are well qualified and earn well Your wife will not be overly clingy and will have a social life outside of you and your circle
Cons Your should share equal responsibility of running the household and family - keeping the home clean, day to day boring chores like laundry, cooking, etc hand also raising kids You don’t have a painfully over scarifying nauseating wife (I don’t consider this a con, but based on your question, many might). You don’t have a cheerleader, you have a teammate, so you need to learn if you don’t know already to respect her as one
I am okay with Career oriented. Here she is hyper Career focused.
Our generation (friends will tolerate a hyper career focused women).
But it's the parents gen and societal pressure you have to defend and overcome.
Having a working partner with high earnings gives you the leverage to take higher risk(startup, etc)
Agreed but what if she does not share the vision of co-building.
You clarify and align. Make it work. Marriage is all about balance and adjustment.
If both parties are hyper focussed on work then they and everyone around them will just suffer tbh
different strokes for different folks, tumhe jisme doubt hai usse dur raho,
Depends if you want to have kids and start a family.
Also, get to know what she is seeking from here career/struggle? Is it money, promotions, position in the corporate, or just the game/passion. The person should be clear about why they work hard to sacrifice on other things.
If you are not okay with her putting in all the hours, don't go for it. In case it doesn't work out later, fights and everything, she might label you as the roadblock in her ambitions.
Mostly Position and Money.
Don’t marry.
Discuss your non-negotiables upfront. Including money and in-laws.