PerkyBoba
PerkyBoba

Rant about men in startups

Women in startups how do you feel about the 400 member strong tech team with just a few women developers and product and project managers?

Men just don’t get it- all our lunch hour conversations about which fit girl and mommy they saw in the gym and which HR is cute. They talk about how they are just not able to find qualified and good female developers and how they prefer to not hire them because they cry so easily under pressure.

While I am at a pretty good positon and work shoulder to shoulder with my all male team, I feel extremely weird about how all men are okay with male bosses being random and rude and somehow associate it with how intimidating and god like these male bosses are. Same for women is bitchy and entitled.

When around them 12 hours a day, I tend to internalise how they view men and women. I am above average smart, joined top consulting firm out of undergrad and work on key projects at a startup at all but 23 years. But I tend to internalise the need to be pretty and slim, and polite or they would talk about me like this behind my back.

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SparklyBiscuit
SparklyBiscuit
Tekion13mo

What if they are still about you like this behind your back?

PerkyBoba
PerkyBoba

Yeah, possible

SparklyBiscuit
SparklyBiscuit
Tekion13mo

Then why do you bother about their opinion anyway. How they think and hold opinions about you is not in your control. So don't bother about it and do whatever you feel like. You don't have to be someone else. Be yourself and be authentic. Your confidence will speak for yourself.

BubblyNugget
BubblyNugget

I work in a mnc. Equivalent to fang and also the same culture follows here. I feel weird when i see all these happens in front of girls

BubblyNugget
BubblyNugget

For the lunch part. Rest can’t comment

PerkyWalrus
PerkyWalrus
CARS2413mo

Men will be men. Your body, your wish! Just make sure they fall for your brain, always!

ZoomyMuffin
ZoomyMuffin

Be a rebel

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