Lying to my parents since my layoff in 2025
I come from a typical middle class family in MP. Dad retired from a govt bank last year, fully expecting his "engineer beta" to handle everything now.
In late 2024, I was at a peak earning 32 LPA. Life was set until the "restructuring" mail hit. I just couldn't break their hearts.
For 4 months, I pretended to log in every day, burning through my savings while sitting in a cafe applying for jobs.
Finally got an offer in december end at a semi service-based firm. The offer is around 18 LPA. A massive 40% cut - ended up taking it. But to my parents, nothing changed.
Last week, Dad asked for 2L for a surgery. I sent it immediately, wiping out my last bit of savings. He still does not know...
I feel like a complete fraud. Just needed to say this somewhere because I can't tell them.
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I also resigned in 2023 without a job offer inhand.
Didn't told my parents, Fortunately got an offer within 1 month.
My brother knows the story, but not my parents
Although I don’t know your reason to resign without offer, since Coinbase was or is your company you’ve good caliber. Same may not be true for OP or others which can make getting job again a very long process. It’s best to let your family know in such situation bcoz you’ll need their support - at least emotionally.
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I’m still not sure why are you hiding this from your parents? He is your Dad after all. He knows this world better than you. So chill and let him know. Don’t burden yourself with expectations on the behalf of your father. After all human mind suffers more in thoughts than in reality.
That's a great advice but the thing is with indian parents we have to be extra careful while informing them, they might be in some medical condition and they will try to keep it within themselves to not worry you which ends up really bad.
+1 You should tell the truth at least you have a job now
I think instead of feeling sorry for him we should refer his profile. You can dm me with your resume gdrive link and other details. I can try to refer u at my org
Ah damn. I'm sorry about your predicament.
I know you're scared of telling them... but isn't it worse the longer it extends? Any plans for saying it?
It's been more than six months since I got layed off and I haven't told about it to my extended family. Everyone was pleasantly suprised when I got into big tech and now I am not getting similar job. Thinking of taking a pay cut now.
Your extended family doesn't need to know your new salary. Even if they do want to know it , you can always fake it.
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Bro I don’t want to be harsh but telling truth gives you more strength and bonding than hiding it . I suggest sit and talk to your parents as soon as possible; they are your parents they will understand and support you during tough times and you will rise up strong again soon
CTC so good, you never thought about taking an insurance for family?
Sensible
Are you referring to a Job-loss insurance? Are they reliable enough?
Since others (like Life Insurance) won’t be any help in this case.
sending a lot of blessings and best wishes for you to rise back
Sorry to hear this. I feel you should tell them. They will feel disheartened but you cannot keep it hiding forever. They will stand by you in tough times.
You're not a fraud but a very resilient person. You have a job now which is no mean achievement. Don't underestimate your family's strength. Be transparent so that they can also support you and adjust to changed situation.