I work 9 to 9. My girlfriend says I don't give her time.
How do actual grown ups with a demanding job (let's say a team lead with an MBA and 5-6 years of experience) take out any time for their partner/spouses?
Is it just normal for adults to only meet at dinner? Especially when you live far from each other.
The unfortunate realities I have seen come out of this are:
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You're single and have somewhat of a college-goer love life. No commitments. I think that is hardly sustainable beyond your immature youth years.
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You're committed but in a bad relationship which leads to the entire point of being in a relationship being negated since not only your outside life, but also your domestic life are giving you more mental pressure than you can dissipate on your own.
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You're committed but you don't care anymore, neither does your partner. I don't know how common adultery actually is, but my guess is at least in double digit percentages and based on how messed up corporates are, maybe even higher than 50%!?
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The perfect relationship where both people are not happy, but also successful and absolutely immune to what the outside world thinks or does. I think that would be the personal life equivalent of clearing NEET, IIT, IIM, UPSC all in one lifetime. Is it possible? Maybe. Is it easy? Hell no.
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Few things which we do.. now that I think about it
- Calling around lunch times just to catchup how's the day going
- Calling or texting in evening again for a quick casual chat.. can be about anything.. like yesterday we were talking about a post I saw on insta about a new restaurant open which we can try later
- Planning getaways on weekends, long weekends if you like to travel Or just going out for movies, shows, standups etc
- Doing activities together.. we go to gym together as both of us love it.. that is after reaching home by 8 from work
- Weekend activities together.. going out and roaming in the streets of kormangala or commercial street of bangalore talking about random things, office stories and just about anything. We both like cooking so that helps
Also, none of this is a set in stone that call during lunch, go to gym etc.. we just do it randomly based on when and how we feel.
Overall it works out for us
Thanks for your reply. Reading the post, I was concerned about which category is my relationship like. Me and my partner do the same things as you mentioned and it gives me the courage to propose to her for marriage pretty soon. Lots of love for your guys!
Do you not have few seconds to text back?
Maybe 5 times in the 12 hours?
Mere paas hai but no gf, ig my problems are existing in some parallel universe 😂
Obviously texting back 5 times in 12 hours is very much doable but it's either asynchronous texting which doesn't feel like connecting at all or it is being on text at the same time, which takes more than just a 'few seconds'...
The thing is, I don't understand how people work long hours and also maintain relationships in their personal lives. Maybe because I've only been in a relationship when I was in college and back then we had a lot more free time on our hands.
2nd one is relatable in my case. Don’t know what to do. Uske upar its ldr🥲.