Why people are delaying marriages these days?
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This survey is wrong. This is confirmation bias. This assumes people are marrying late, because people in their circle are marrying late.
Marriage since time beginning is extension of economic cooperation. Men who are financially well off, people from joint family/business setups, men with support system - get married soon. There are only two kinds of men who get delayed - Men who lack aspirational value in the marriage market and men who do not have support system.
For women its merely their over expectations.
A very small % of women stay single due to family responsibilities and both men/women due unfortunate health conditions.
Except for men in the group "concerned about wedding security" every other are merely people who have hit the wall/ or know they cannot find one in the current conditions/ or its pure "sunk cost fallacy"- thinking" i didnt wait so long to marry this one"..
Unstable career.
Concerns regarding an uncertain future.
Financial challenges.
Health-related issues.
Desire for increased wealth and power over one's spouse.
Why pursue marriage when it is possible to attain everything without it, a situation not available to our ancestors?
Fear of entrapment.
Excessive mental stress that complicates matters further.
And much more would add up if you further think of having kids...
Umm...depends...
Sure, it does depend on one's philosophy of life. Every individual carries within them a unique worldview shaped by their experiences, beliefs, and cultural background. For some, the desire to have a child is deeply intertwined with the notion of legacy. They may view parenthood as a way to pass on their values, traditions, and even family name to the next generation. This perspective often leads them to seek out marriage, as it is traditionally seen as the foundation for a stable family unit. In contrast, others may prioritize the role of being a responsible family person, believing that marriage is a crucial step in fulfilling their duties to their loved ones and society at large. Interestingly, the notion of marriage is not confined to those who are financially secure. People without stable jobs also find ways to marry, driven by a profound emotional connection or a shared vision for the future. In fact, if we look back at history, we will find that none of our ancestors were necessarily job holders in the modern sense. Their lives were often centered around survival, community, and establishing a household. For them, the primary aim was simply to settle down, create a family, and build a life together, often in very challenging circumstances. But does it really settle? This is a thought-provoking question that many individuals grapple with today. The concept of settling down has evolved significantly over the years. In contemporary society, where personal fulfillment and self-actualization are increasingly emphasized, the idea of marriage as a means of settling can seem outdated or even daunting. Many people are now questioning whether traditional marriage truly provides the stability and happiness it once promised. This introspection leads to the answer to your question about why people delay marriages these days. People are learning from the past. They observe the experiences of previous generations, noting the complexities and challenges that can arise within marriage. They witness the high rates of divorce and the emotional toll it can take on families. As a result, many are choosing to prioritize personal growth, career development, and emotional readiness before committing to a lifelong partnership. This shift reflects a broader cultural change, where individuals are increasingly valuing their autonomy and the importance of entering into marriage with a clear understanding of what they want from life and relationships. In essence, the decision to marryâor to delay marriageâhas become a multifaceted issue, deeply influenced by personal philosophy, societal expectations, and lessons learned from the past. As individuals navigate these waters, they are redefining what it means to settle down, often seeking a balance between love, responsibility, and personal aspirations.
Marriage is big decision which needs time, trust and process, we are not our parents or grandparents who just married because they had to, we marry because we want to and whom we want to spend our rest of the life with. Your parents will pass away, your siblings wonât live with you, no one will but the partner you will choose and will choose you back. To be together no matter what youâre going through and vice versa, to be a support, to be a pillar, to be a constant and that doesnât come easy, you need to meet people, click with them, spend time with them, understand them, not judge them on their insecurities and just be there for them. That is what marriage is to me, if itâs anything else like a transaction itâs bound to fail whether it ends up in a divorce or no.
People need to understand this.
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Absolutely correct
For my part. I grew up mostly alone and didn't really enjoy my school or college life not even my early 20s.I didn't have any money.By the time I got a job, I was tasked to run my home. I want to remain free and hopefully enjoy whatever life I'll have. I don't think a wife and kids are going to fit in my view of life. Besides I'm already hating the fact that I have to be the man of the house while people my age are just roaming around and enjoying life. Wife and kids will only make my life a living hell.
This hits home man. Not about the marriage perspective but about the unfairness of life. I feel and have felt the same thing. Life took a sudden drastic turn in the childhood and from the next day onwards i did not have an option to be a child again, i had to grow up too soon. And now when things are better i still feel that i do not enjoy the life like my peers do. It feels unfair i have to run the household and people just earn to enjoy life. I just wish i had the same support system.
Understood..but see it depends.. a partner can make you or break you.. if you fortunately got a good one then life can be super awesome as well.. I'm not opposing your thought of staying single.. but just giving another perspective..
More options to be added :
Particular about partner qualities
Bad experience in marriage
Bad experience with relationships in the past
Career focus (not financial)
Engagement broken kyu ki mamji apne bf se move on nahi ki thi toh hame gumrah kie ja rhi thi
You dodged a bullet!
That's why "past" matters... especially for those who are a bit more emotional than required... But aapne pucha nhi tha 1:1 mei?? Or you were aware of that since the start??
Lack of religion is one thing you missed. Remember marriage is a concept from religion and people are tired of false gods and so marriage carries no weight. Although I'm firm believer in one God people nowadays are stupid.
But even the idea of one True God cannot really be proven.