Shadi (yay or nay)
if you're in your mid-late 20s like me & contemplating marriage.if i had to summarize on a high level:
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marriage isn’t the point. partner quality is. the institution just magnifies whatever choice you make.
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it’s a deliberate trade of short-term optionality for long-term stability, peace, and shared meaning.
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timing matters. early choice favors compatibility (in 20s). delay increases baggage, cynicism, and forced fits
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marriage offers no guarantees: not love, not care, not permanence. it’s truly a wager, not insurance
i think the strongest pro-marriage arguments cluster around shared life full of companionship, memory and children.
the anti-marriage sentiment comes from watching bad examples, h0e rehabilitation programs & biased legal system.
my takeaway is that you need to play the game to have any chance of winning. if so, even if the game is rigged.
my mind is, however, not changed on marriage.
i still find it a bad overall deal, especially as a man. there is no guarantee that the woman you marry isn't mentally married to some other man, the children you have will not end up with an arts degree, or that the milords won’t punish you for a bad bet.
such asymmetric risk with such symmetric outcomes.
(still just as confused)
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Most of us solve thousands of questions on leet code, but unfortunately, nobody discovered a single deterministic algorithm that guarantees success in this area.
Let me know if somebody knows the shortest path algorithm to finding the right partner. Time complexity, kitni bhi Ho we will give it a try.
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I can tell your religion. And very specifically to which religion you dont belong to.
Keeping that aside, yes.. it can make or break you. Its kinda black box. And applicable for both, I have seen loyal women getting disloyal "drivers".
At 33 (M), I can say with complete conviction that choosing marriage has been the most meaningful decision of my life.
No matter how unpredictable life becomes, there is a profound sense of reassurance in knowing that someone stands beside you—steadfast, present, and unwavering. Marriage, to me, is not merely companionship; it is the quiet security of being understood, the comfort of being supported, and the privilege of being valued without condition.
There is a unique strength in partnership—the way responsibilities are shared, traditions are preserved, and a family is nurtured with care and dignity. Watching my wife uphold our home and our cultural values with such grace has deepened my respect for the institution itself.
For me, marriage has brought not just happiness, but a sense of grounding and purpose that I had not fully known before.
Congratulations man, you lucked out with a great partner! This is what everyone aims for, but unfortunately doesn't always get - hence this post. Anything you wanna share on how you found your partner/ how you filtered/ how you figured out she's the one?
Enjoy life, life is too short. Do whatever makes you happy without hurting anyone else.
Marriage is like rolling the dice…either you get a 6 or you don’t!
