Shaadi ka Kharcha
I’m marrying this girl and she’s so hellbent on having the perfect wedding that she ready to spend ALL her money (10L plus)
Me on the other hand am okay with a regular low key wedding as I think that money is better spent on investments and better quality of life than burning it in 2 days.
Now nothings wrong in her having a Bollywood dhoom dhaam wedding but I wanted to understand the psyche behind it. Logically it’s any day best to invest the money and have a better QoL as a couple, even travel maybe. But why is it some women don’t get it?
Is there a deep underlying reason?
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didn't you guys discuss this earlier?
We’re not yet married so how can I dictate her what to do with her money? I did my best to explain her but as usual ek hi baar hoti hai, YOLO, rishtedaar ka maan etc etc
If you can't even agree on things before starting, how do you expect this marriage to last ?
The capitalist society has led women and men to believe that they're the center of the world. Because of this, appearances remain the no. 1 priority of people, even above their sense of security and true stability. Adding to this, Indian high society weddings have become a uni-season shows all around the internet, showing people how the rich celebrate their "once in a lifetime" event. Adding to this, the soul dead influencers constantly preach some of the most destructive, anti-disciplinary philosophies to the world like YOLO and the rest. Women (and even men) wanting a top-tier anything including wedding / travel / clothes / house / car is a direct product of this planned and channeled brain-washing done by the people at the top. I could think of only one phrase for this from the Orwellian classic 1984 - "Freedom is slavery"
Exactly man. I don’t know how people buy into this artificial sense of pride and entitlement.. good for capitalism unless it’s your turn to face the brunt of it
Some women ? I can bet more than 80% of women want their wedding to be with full dhum dham. Investment is always secondary for them.
My cousin (girl) was in the same situation, his fiance wanted a simple wedding, he was even up for court marriage, but my cousin wanted a lavish wedding.
Her Fiance gave her an option that we can use that money to save or for an international trip but she rejected both saying we can earn again to do investment and tours but weddings happen only once.
Exactly bro But why? I just can’t understand that 😭😭
That might be true for some women, but not for all. For me, I think a simple wedding or even a court marriage with just close family members is better. Spending a huge amount just for show doesn’t make much sense to me, especially for relatives who end up complaining anyway. I’d rather save that money and invest it in property or something meaningful for the long term
Yup, No doubt, money invested is spent well! We boys are respected based on what we earn, so usually our relationship with relatives is like- inn risterdaro par itna kharcha karke kya hi hoga. On the other hand girls get princess treatment most of the times, so their feeling is like - kama kiske liye rahe he bhai, jindagi padi he kamane ke liye, apne paiso ko apne loved ones ke liye kuch na kar sake to kya faida kamane ka..😂
So that contrast in thought is going to stay forever..
In many houses you see, 90 percent of times the divorce is due to problems like money and family! Its just that both have to understand each others thought process and get on common grounds!
That being said, now that you understand her thoughts, just manipulate...
Mein apne bare mein soch raha hoon, I wish we can have a trip with our families, or lets say, save for future emergency of "our" families. Usko bolo, I agree tera paisa he, tu apne ghar pe rakh, chaiye to, tere family ke kam ayega!
Fir bhi nahi mani, to shadi konsa bar bar honi he, karne de jo karna he, tu apna paisa bacha ke rakh😅 Family ka jimma mard ke kandho pe hi hota he, paisa nahi hoga to ghanta koi nai puchne wala apne ko..
Amazing take bro ! Kaafi clarity mili
- 10l won't go a long way in a marriage ceremony. Budget for 5 and you will reach 10. I hope this is understood.
- It's not an outrageous amount, decent though. Needs to be bucketed for the right things though.
- It's still okay if she is doing this to genuinely fulfil her wishes, but if this is for social media or society, then needs to be rethought.
It's sheer stupidity, peer pressure, fomo... We did it and I am not proud of it.
Spent a humungous amount, which could have later helped me buy a better home, better car or even build a solid corpus for investment.