Need Your Take on This First Date (Especially from the Ladies)

Had a date today with someone who was stunning .. easily a 10/10.

I’d rate myself an 8.

It was a lunch date. Earlier she had recommended meeting for a workout session.. to that I said no and asked to meet in a restrau instead.

Now, from past experience, I’ve figured that for things to really click on a first date, I need to create some spark- a bit of flirtation or even some subtle sexual tension.

One of my go-to moves is sitting side by side instead of across the table (easier for banter, eye contact, playful nudges)

But today, the seating setup didn’t work out- we ended up sitting across from each other.

Still, the date felt good. We were vibing. We’ve been chatting on WhatsApp for a few weeks, and the energy was nice in-person too.

On the date: • We talked across a bunch of topics • She giggled, smiled constantly • At one point, I mentioned I dance, and she playfully said something like, “Oh I know where to take you next” .. which felt like a positive signal.

But then, about 1.5 hours in- right after lunch- she asked if we should head out. That caught me off guard because I thought we were still mid-vibe.

Usually, my better dates stretch to 2.5–3+ hours, so this felt short.

So, I asked for the bill and a bit later we left. This left me a bit confused.

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So here’s where I need your thoughts: 1. Do shorter dates sometimes mean disinterest, or can it just be a “let’s keep it light” first-time? 2. Girls- how important is it for you to feel that romantic or sensual spark on a first date?