Need relationship-family advice
My family have been typical indian middle class for then samaj me ijjat is everything. It's above their child's happiness. They got my brother married (arranged) and they're not happy because he's supportive of his wife. (His wife and her family have been doing really wrong since day 1 but let's not get into this). Now they want me to get married. I have been labelled badtameez and what not because I didn't do any chores at home (apparantly , I went against the typical mindset of ladki hai to karna padega since very young age) and prioritised my studies and got into government college and then into good job. I avoid talking to family and relatives and all the panchayat and prioritising my mental peace. If I don't talk to my mom, other family members start taunting me and my mother's nature is generally agressive. Now they want me to get arranged marriage. But I'm so afraid to get married to someone completely strange. There's this friend of mine who proposed to me last year for the marriage. We kinda like each other and after that proposal we started getting closer and talk daily. It's a long distance. I told my family about him. But they're not agreeing to it just because his mama is super rich and cousin is MLA. They keep bringing rishtas and I'm saying no and tanuts. Please suggest me how do I go about it? They're not ready for this marriage and I can't do arranged one.
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We've been friends for so long before he proposed
I disagree here with @BeingCivil . It’s not a miraecle always. Yes there are certain aspects of relationship that has not been tested in LDRs. But then there are some other aspects of relationship that are tested in LDRs that do not get tested in your usual ones. (especially communication and expressing in general).
So if enough time has passed…I think it is a good to go!
Get real meet , spend 3 to 4 months keep in observation and check his background. Because he has political connections. More chance to dump you. Look for long term ask whether your circumstances makes him love or really you love him. Keep aside your family's interest.. what you really want focus on it.
If boy side is okay with you get registered marriage and what ever your culture follow do marriage in that way too.
All the best
We met quite a few times, stayed together for weeks, so I know we can do long term. His mom and other family members are ready. I talk to his sister also sometimes, except his father because of caste difference.. but anyways he's actively having conversations with them to convince.. hoping for the best.
