Need Honest Opinions — Is Love Enough?
I’m 27 now, and I’ve been in a relationship with my college friend for over 8 years. We’ve been through almost everything together — highs, lows, and phases that shaped both of us.
After years of trying, her parents are finally convinced for our marriage. But my side — my parents — are completely against it.
Recently, a heated moment exposed her impatience and anger in front of my parents, which made things even worse. I genuinely love her and still want to marry her, but her temper has been growing lately — maybe due to all this stress and fear about the marriage.
She’s 4’9” and I’m 5’9”, and my parents often mention our height difference, her darker complexion, and the fact that she’s from a small village with weaker financial background. Despite that, she’s one of the most caring, supportive, and dedicated people I’ve ever known. She stood by me completely in my toughest times — and I feel it’s my turn to stand by her.
Still, somewhere in me, there’s fear — about society’s opinions, family rejection, and our future together.
I’m at a crossroads now. I truly love her, but I also don’t want to make a lifelong mistake if we’re not emotionally compatible.
💬 I’d genuinely like to hear your thoughts — not judgments, but honest perspectives. What would you do if you were in my place?
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Bro If you seriously know her in and out and been there with her from past 8+ years and her love for you, why is this thought striking or even igniting.
Every relationship has ups and downs and now don’t think much. Just go ahead if you know are well, duck Society, who cares?
End of the day, it is you and her who will lead the life going forward for more than sixty plus years
My parents are strictly against her - due cast issue she belongs to same category but lil lower cast. My parents strictly didn’t like her at all. Her parents are agreed only for her happiness. Couldn’t be able to think much, my brain gets messed up due to this thinking.
Don't marry move on things changes once u get married later it's not just u both it's urgent families. U will get plated like dhol one from parents one from her.
Aggar 8 years par bhi Yeh haal hein toh lodu to Tu hua naa...
Lodu, calling is easy — sustaining something for 8 years isn’t. That’s the difference between talkers and doers.
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Question is biased, shows bad attitude and bad manners of the @IndelibleExit and his parents. This is 2025, getting married and surviving marriage has become really difficult. If you know your partner for 8 years, don't mess it up. Grow some balls, Have courage to stand up with your partner. If needed, do a court marriage with your partner in some other city, settle down in other city. Parents hopefully will realise their own mistakes and will be back to talking terms after few years.
It's very weird you haven't decided yet and are soliciting opinions from strangers.
If you don't have the guts to marry her even after 8 years of relationship, might as well break up with her and stop wasting both of your time.
It is extremely rare to find partners who can sustain a relationship for so long. Your parents won't be around much but your partner will be. If you don't realise that, you're incredibly dumb.
Exactly. 8 years in and asking opinions from strangers on the net. Wow. If dude needed parental approval for everything should have settled for arranged marriage.
How can you have a question about emotional compatibility after 8 years? Either you know something deep down about her that you refuse to accept or you just don't have the spine to take a stand.
Im taking stand only for her, she is the reason I’m trying to convince my parents from last 3yrs. But feels completely blocked as this is deadlocked process now.
Her demand is that her parents are ready for marriage for her happiness so your parents also should be there for marriage.
And my parents completely opposite.
Your parents hate her for her height, skin color, financial background, and cast.
No fucking shit, he got angry in fron of your parents.
Don't leave her, if you did that will the life time regret.
🥲Im in this fear buddy .
Your girlfriend is justified, because she has taken up the task of convincing her parents and has achieved the same. Even they have caste apprehensions, on how they / their daughter will be treated in future , but for their daughter's happiness & with her persistence she has got them to agree.
But from your side, since you have not shown that level of persistence and have your own doubts, regarding compatibility, your parents are not budging as well.
You should sit down with your partner, have an open hard conversation about the doubts in your mind and clarify each other's expectations of behavior during heated moments. Then both of you together sit down with your parents and clarify what are their doubts, if it is following any traditions, any food habits specific to their caste or any other query on their mind. You have to convince them that your happiness in married life is paramount and that you seek their blessings for which you will wait.
On the other hand , if you find that in your conversation with your gf, your expectations are a mismatch in terms of compatibility, have the courage to end it and both of you gracefully move on. Whether you will find a suitable partner later is upto fate, but you cannot cling on & torture everyone involved once a relationship is incompatible.
Hey could you help me same situation only I am with talking to her with 6 months and she is very good my parents are not ready for marriage what should i do I care alot for her but I can't go against my family because they are with me since I born. I am in confused situation she is telling me that she can't imagine that she is getting married with other person also me but I have to take decision now either she or family
Bro im in same situation. But my mind is telling me that don’t lose such good and supportive girl. But another side is parents and me. Im mostly family person. But thinking to marry her at any cost.
See my questions at the top.
Too much of physical incompatibility is never good. If she has expressed frustration at your parents then it's a big problem.
What would you recommend now, frustration from her end is also right as she feels stuck at some point at the age of 27.
Leave her for 6 months and see her moving on and getting married to someone else. Then you will be left alone with no support from parents too because you are already fighting with them. Then you will realize what really matters
This is not the case actually, I tried this, She stayed with me so far after this as well. Didnt koved