My experience of Shaadi.com as a 25M, SDE
About me - decent looking, 5 11, Punjabi, SDE in a MNC, Earning decent, I don't drink or smoke, army brat
Reason of installing Matrimony - my parents have given me a disclaimer, due to dispute with relatives and zero communication with them since a decade, I am on my own and they can't help me find someone.
Sounds very good on paper. FREE to date. Yipeee
No, actually. Datings apps are shit, I have burned near to 7k, and although I got dates, but none of them went to the relationship stage. Everyone wanted free validation and casuals. It's as if, no one wants to be serious.
Or the classic one, 'I am not over my ex, you are a good guy, but I need more time to heal', as if they didn't knew this before dating.
But in a self introspection, I realised, I wasn't good enough for them to consider me.
Installed matrimony, in the hope of finding someone, who has an intent of a long term relationship and possibility of settling down.
3 months. 5 matches. Broke my confidence like hell, since the women I wish to marry in future, weren't even viewing my profile.
Atleast someone working on her career, who wishes to have kids, they didn't even opened my profile.
I am working on myself, on my career, but tbh, I don't know what I should do, if I will jump into Matrimony only when I have been earning a certain number, like as mentioned in the app, by these women.
Will the match actually be a good one. Should I have someone in life, I only got, after earning a decent money?
I am socialising, travelling and meeting people. Trying to live the best life possible. But in this life, if it's possible, I don't wanna die, without having a family of my own.
My current hope was to find someone, who wishes to build a relationship and grow together.
Nobody wants to marry at 25, oh, except you may be!! You are just searching at the wrong time, and wrong place.
Everybody wants to marry at 25. they just use age a reason so reject. Do men relly think women do not know about the physical window? The "independent", "career focus", "financial security", these are BS they feed to reject somebody they dont wish to marry.
GIve a girl any one of these - green card, a FAANG job, well established business family, politically well connected, UPSC job, - there will be hardly anyone who will say no.
Just searching for a long term relationship with an intent to marry
If you are yourself 25, only girls lesser than your age will be interested in you,
most working women below 25 like enjoying their life, don't like getting into commitments,
You can keep trying till you find someone,
Else search for unemployed girls
Seeing the casual dating stuff around me, makes me feel suffocated, hai casually people are fucking around in the name of independence and then we see girls screaming now am looking for something serious, loyal ...and so on ig those are the girls who had tried a lot many options and now when the feel mentally and emotionally exhausted they wanna cling to someone stable who had worked his ass off to make his career while she was hanging around
29 F here with family
I'll only suggest you one thing: finding a life partner is an important decision in life. It's totally fine you're searching early on, just don't make it your whole personality. I met my husband when I was 20 and was not searching for marriage or even a relationship. Be open to experiences, travel, meet people, even search on sites just don't get married just for the sake of wanting to have a family. I mean, don't make decisions in a hurry; you're not missing something in life. Good things happen, and sometimes they take time. So as I said earlier, live your life, stay open to experiences love will come along with that.
There will be very few working ladies wanting to marry at this age. Either wait or look for non working ones.
25 too early sir for women (who will most likely be 22 to 25) you are looking for. Even if someone agrees, double confirm that they are not doing it under parents’ pressure.
At 25, only one kind of working woman would want to marry you. A 30+ year old woman whose parents have been forcing her forever. She may not also be the most attractive person at the first look.
You might just wanna do a fuckfest at 25, get into situationships for next 2 years, do a courtship of 1-2 years and get married by 29-30.
Maybe not mention the long term goal, be real, loyal, love your gf and marry her by proposing at 28 ?
