Married Guys - What % of your salary does your Wife earn?
I'm trying to figure out, how much less would be too less for my potential spouse to earn with respect to my earnings in an arranged marriage setup.
Should I be looking at my spouse's earnings as one of the important factors?
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Why are you so concerned about money?
Layoffs, expenses, inflation, early retirement
Equal earning female PM here for a product Org.
The spouse must be earning in almost an equal range.
The emotional maturity, respect for each other, mutual understanding, empathy and hence love always goes up due to equal contributions.
#2. Inflation is eating away marriages. Do NOT settle for a house wife. Might sound Anti women but I am not. I have seen housewives torturing their husbands with their family members.
#3. You will always have a strong sense of security of finances.
#4 while you serve notice, she will manage the Opex of YOUR house.
#5 Money wise - you guys will always do better, can retire early.
Do not forget the role of money to run a happy house.
9 out of 10 times if the wife earns more, somewhere it hits the fragile male ego and then problems start, better to keep this mind. I know I will be cussed for stating this, but it's a fact .N.B- I am a male
The worst problem will be when wife puts it on you again n again i have a friend whose wife was earning more she told in party tum hi kr lo meri salary jyada hain aur kaam bhi
Wife earning more than husband
On internet -70 percent In reality - .1 percent
Girls never choose someone earning less than her than blame male ego lol
One of my friends' wife is getting 1.5 times than him. And they have a happy family life. Another friend is working in govt and his wife getting 2.5+ times than him. And many are just home maker. All going good. Home maker also add lots of values to family which can't measure in money. Both should be good understanding partners.
That's true
You are framing marriage like a cap table Asking about "what % of my salary does my wife earn" assumes the primary unit of value in a partner is income symmetry, not judgment, agency, adaptability, or character. If you are optimizing for a spreadsheet, marry a P&L. If you are optimizing for a life, understand this: Income is situational. Capability is structural. Values are irreversible.
A spouse who earns 0 today but can build, decide, learn, and adapt will outperform a high-earning but low-agency partner across a 40-year timeline.
The real question isn’t "how much less is too less?" It's "do I understand leverage beyond salary?".. Reflect man.. don't spoil your life.. when you will get older.. you will need someone to talk to.. Banks and zeros wont be that for sure..
Go fall in love, be stupid.. and live beyond zeros for a change.. noir photos, chai and memories - go make some..
I wish I could. Ig lot of things are expected from men and that's why I have the burden of thinking so much
Tbh its abt compatibility...if every other quality is cool with u except the salary then u can overlook... its hard enough to get compatible partners these days ..if u overlook all other qualities just for salary then that would be a bit far fetched... if she earns more than u then tbh there is no question...she is not interested in ur money..she can very well earn it herself...if she earns less then the point to watch is if she considers ur decisions important w.r.t what u earn ...for ex her choice vs your choice for a saved up amount that u only contributed to.Discussing financial goals is very important so u are well aware of how similar or different ur goals are
On the surface level everything looks aligned and she agrees to everything saying yes
It is more like asking her questions which do not end in yes or no... ex what split does she do with her salary in case if she is working...or what are her financial goals or life goals ...and if she is not working..what are her dreams and how does she utilize her team.....then u would know if those allign with u or not.
Depends on your and wife's mindset. In my case, husband was earning slightly more than me when we got married. In the following years my salary increased more than his. Last year he left his job to start something on his own so no salary. His company is doing good and he is reinvesting the profits into growing the company. So currently house runs on my salary 😀. If there are no ego issues, it doesn't matter who earns more. But yeah, both should be capable of earning to run the family.
Good wishes!
Finances can be managed even if she has a low salary at the start. If she has the skills and pedigree, she can potentially earn more later on. Don’t keep a salary bracket but look for intelligence and potential. Also, look for her spending habits. People even with low salary but good acumen of savings will eventually be saving a lot. Also peace matters more than money. What if she constantly creates a ruckus at home even if she earns more. A simple understanding non dramatic women is better than egoistic dramatic girl
Ok noted
