Manager wants me to be more extroverted
My skip level manager gave me the advice to be a lot more extroverted and this is further stressing me out. I do go out on team lunches and eat lunch with team mates but it looks like it's not enough. I'm bogged down by work as well.
He told me to focus on building connections, I feel like it won't add much value plus I am kind of doing this except not delibaretely. I'm a pretty introverted person who moves around like batman minding my own work and he doesn't like this plus I don't have time for small talk since my attention span is also low.
But he doesn't like all this and told me it's best i change how can I do this impossible task though, small talk is not natural to me plus I speak to only people I'm familiar with in general or if i really need something, I'm very introverted lost in his own thoughts
Bro, u r introverted so u r capable of doing things on your own, connections r for weak ppl. U will always figure it out on ur own, just reflect how u came here.
This is first time i am heating connection are for weak people 😂😂 totally inappropriate advice and wrong
Yes..it is for weak people...strong men don't seek external validation..mostly all the business leaders ..beuracrats, scientists are introverted in the world..building connection is OK but with high quality of people who can fuel your growth..
I know I’m gonna get hate for this But this is something I learned the hard way
Beyond a certain point in your career, you need to speak more, interact more, build more connections, be more visible in wider groups and communities
No matter how great you are as an IC, if you want to grow to lead or principle level, you would have to start creating more impact
In the promotional discussions, you would want more people to vouch for you
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So true. Realising this more and more as I climb the corporate ladder
Same story everywhere for all introverts and ambiverts. This must be the most common suggestion given by the managers. To talk more, to network more, to interact more so as to make your presence visible.
But bottom line is, take it as your sign to start preparing for job switch, because they will certainly give this as an excuse to give lower hike.
Research has proved that extroverts do well at a higher level of career. There is only till a certain level where introverts can handle everything on thier own. But after a certain level you HAVE to collaborate with people. As a introvert myself im working on it. Its not the introvertness it's the discomfort that you feel while interacting to new people. Put yourself in uncomfortable situations. This is a skill which can be learnt.
I got laid off for not being talkative enough, in 1:1 manager told me no issues with skills but not a good culture fit due to my quiet nature
It’s a new trend where quite quitters like you are increasing and organisation think this is the major reason of high attrition. Even I am quiet and only do my job … no parties , team building etc
The thing is I do attend team building activities and parties but I'm not the centre of attraction I'll stick to people I am familiar with and not talk a lot.
I'm not a quiet quitter I do like my work and go above and beyond where my skills allows me to...
MS used to do employee ratings on 3 dimensions-
- What you did, 2. How you helped others do their work, 3. How you used others to do your work
Most companies don't state this explicitly, but implicitly it's these three things
As an introvert over-achiever, you will be high in 1 but not in 2/3. Nobody cares if you are the heart of the office party, but 2&3 should be fulfilled.
Or you can choose to be me : Not care about career growth and stay in your comfort zone
Dude, ask manager in writing. Ho skta hai htane ki soch rha ho, ghomta firta gappe marta dikhega toh easy hoga uske liye
Hey, it’s ok for the suggestions given by manager take it only if you ok to build connections.. introverts are more capable of doing things alone!!
Chill Bhai ..relax nothing to worry about..talk to someone naturally no need to fake it and become extrovert
