Looking for love
Hi everyone, I am a 24 year old software engineer working in Bangalore , I have asked out girls in my college but they have always rejected me, all the girls which I know of this question why I don’t have a girlfriend and I don’t know the reason of it I mean it has come to a point of validation that I am believing that I am unlovable cause to be honest let’s say once my parents are gone from this world. There is no one to accept me for who I am. People tend to come in relationship because of their pride but for me has come to a point of self validation that I am this much out of on the borders of society that nobody can ever think to love me . Why am writing this right now is because there are some situations in life which I don’t want to share with my parents but they are too hard to control on their own and I don’t have anyone else to share it with them. Therefore I need to share it with my parents which is too awkward for me. . I have tried clubbing dating apps. Everything nothing is working out for me. I’m not sure what to do for my love life angle.
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like everything else in life, we need to "learn" how dating and how attracting girls work. You need to know what other person wants and what you want as well. You won't get anything without efforts.
I would highly recommend you to watch "Choti Choti Si Baat" (1976) movie. You will get some gist.
In my opinion there are a few following rules/criteria:
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Stay in your league unless you are very rich or have something rare to provide.
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Know what you are looking for i.e casual, serious, marriage.
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Know your worth you will get it, don't lose your self respect for anyone, don't follow like a dog.
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Learn some rizz, it's important.
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Work on yourself i.e build personality. It includes having good hygiene, dressing sense, try gym, work on yourself confidence and self esteem/respect/worth.
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Go out for events, work from cafes, meet as many people as possible. It increases your luck surface area.
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Build some activity based habits and meet similar people.
I'll add more.....
Us bhaijaan.
Man I am not joking. I’m literally confused at this point.😥
Neither am I... I literally feel like not investing any time, energy & effort into the dating scene. But somehow expect not to be single.
These days I try to think less about being single, but thoughts do cross my mind frequently ;(
Grass is greener on the other side
honestly being in a healthy relationship is actually "greener neighbourhood", I've a bestfriend whom I can just call crying without being judged, a partner whose voice soothes me ofcourse not every relationship is like that, but you can try more formal ways (like shaadi.com maybe?) to find a partner, if it doesn't work find another partner?
Bro i think your just want the female touch, jab hona hoga tab hoga, try hard karke no point self love on 🔝
Hii
Itna mat soch Shanti rakh dost ache wale bana phele
Us moment hogaya bro