Life crisis of an man
Hi everyone,
I am 28 M, I have total 6.5 years of experience in IT.
Currently I have 15 CTC and I work in TCS.
I have a job offer of 20 CTC from Comcast (CNBC).
At this age I don't have a own house or anything of my own. I don't have any savings as well.
I haven't married yet.
My parents medical bills are almost 25k per month.
I don't have any properties as well.
At this others buy there own house, cars, bike and getting married
I feel I am worthless and not live and not even an talents.
Talking product sense with Ridhi
9 min AI interview5 questions
You can't compare your life apples to apples with others buddy, there will always be someone better or worse off than you somewhere in the world. And that also changes over time because change is the only constant in life.
Do your best, have reasonable and realistic expectations, try to achieve goals but don't get disheartened if you don't. The aim is to try and have patience.
Good luck with it 👍
Comparison is the thief of Joy.
At 28, I was at 7LPA, renting a flat, took a loan to get married, no savings obviously, no investments, no inheritance, mother living with me (monthly medical expenses close to 6-7k).
I did okay afterwards. It’s a phase. Don’t worry. Things will either get better.
If you think you have no talents, work harder.
Remember Hard work beats talent, if talent doesn’t work hard.
I did that and I think I am not doing very well but not doing very bad either.
As Alfred said to Batman - Endure
30 here ; same but I have bike 🏍 🥰; 4.80 L
But it's fine buddy 🙂
Like is a marathon make the best of what you got and what you can
That's it
Always look at the bright side ✨️ 😌
Which bike bro ???
Sirji it's time to get a car now
Bro. I'm literally unplaced after doing mba from symbiosis 🥲🥲🥲
You are not alone brother:'
MBA in which specialisation?
Our parents were expected to build a house and a family through their entire job.. and now why do people just take stress of achieving them in their mid 30s ?? If you got lots of hair you will lose all.. if you dont stop taking unnecessary tension
If you compare yourself with others, you will always be unhappy even after having everything. So stop comparing and focus on your growth.
I tried multiple times not to compare with others
But I am unable to achieve it.
After a point of time I start thinking again.
And everyone are better in there looks, carrer, money and everything.
It's I always have a feeling of I am nothing
And the another best thing is I have been constent to the gym from last 1 and 1/2 year and I am unable to achieve a proper body as well
And myself 25 female and my friends got married and happy in their lives. We don't have any properties are even small amount of gold we didn't have even own house. Now I have to build it. While my friends sorry even they are younger than me like 24 they are saying they are going to purchase a house in Hyderabad while selling their lands(in hometown) and of course they are also earning like me but I need to think before buying and spending but they like just chill and vibe mode. They are spending like there is no another day but still have money. Just think from my perceptive how much pressure stress I am going through
And some people will easily say don't compare your life with others and they maybe people still below you but the thing is I never encounter a people below me.. until btech everything feel like I am also equal to them everybody behaves like that but once of the college I feel like I am the only one who has nothing in life and everybody has something in their life
Totally agreed! Every house/family has its own story. So does every person. Better to run our own race against time than by comparing with others.
I am 31, i dont have these things as well brother. Dont worry. We will make it
The point where you started is what matters and you are way ahead from those who started at the same point.
By the way. The previous generation at 28 had babies and not the houses. That's the reality of most Indians.
For example most of my classmates didn't have house. And those few who had, got them when they were between the ages of 15 years of 18 years. So it means that even if their parents got married early say at 20 and 18, they took 15 to 18 years to build their own houses.
Expectations these days is unimaginable.
Also to those getting married. Girls are expecting way more. I understand that there are people born with silver spoons but one should understand that majority lies in the middle class. Girls will always be disappointed. Boys from elite class think will marry these girls? Nope, that won't happen. The guys from elite class also look for the same things in girls, whether from IIM or not, in some good management position or not, where do they come from etc, etc,.
Be realistic and happiness doesn't know anything. It doesn't even know what age you are.
All said aspirations are not bad. But living with guilt at the same time is the worst.
I agree with you on the girls marriage part.
My problem I started with 0 networth, 6 years back and today also my networth is 0.
Apart from IT experience I don't have anything now
If you telling me you have wasted your earnings then it's not late.
If you have used the earnings for betterment then there's no point in feeling guilty. You are 28 and it's not too late. I think it's a very starting phase in life. Start from now on to invest as little as possible.
And with regards to earning it's never linear. Don't know what's waiting for you in future if you really are working for it.
Keep working and good luck. Atleast make some efforts to do the minimum like insurance policies or some savings schemes. It gives a lot of confidence to take leaps.
Compare yourself to your own self a year or two ago. As long as you are making progress vs your old self, you are good! There is no end to comparing to others. It only messes with our heads