Lessons learnt from one year of broken marriage
Hi everyone,
Just wanted to write this post to share my experience and lessons from my one year of marriage, which has now ended in divorce. I hope this might be helpful for people who are planning to get married soon or who want to improve their relationships. 1. Always choose a mature girl who understands the seriousness of marriage. Girls can be very emotional at times, and it can be difficult for them to step out of their idealistic mindset and accept the reality that marriage involves leaving their own home and adjusting to another family. Choose someone who can balance both families and not remain overly attached to her parents and siblings at all times. 2. Do not reveal all your cards and personal truths too early after meeting a girl. Boys often get emotionally carried away once they decide on someone for marriage and end up sharing everything too soon, which can later work against them. 3. Do not let your wife spend hours and hours talking to her mother. Instead, keep her engaged and help her feel at home. If this becomes a habit, your entire family may start appearing like villains to her, and the more you try to fix it later, the worse the situation can become.
I will keep this post for people to add more of their experiences and help other.
I agree some people might find it offensive but these are my own thoughts, feel free to comment if you feel otherwise
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Thats a very bad statement, it hurts
it should be simple your parents are your parents her parents are her parents.problem is that after marriage we try to offload all our parents responsibilities to our wife.why? the life which our parents have lived can't be lived right now thats the truth which we husband can't digest.we have seen our mother doing all this hence we expect our wife to behave like same.but thats not possible we have to accept it.sooner we accept sooner we be happy.
In my days, I also did same; my wife had iPhone 7 but I gave her a Galaxy with all side apps loaded that helped me in monitoring her chats, call logs, msgs, scrolling habits etc. once I got satisfied then I moved ahead.
Chunauti mile hazaar.....
I’ve also seen such cases where bride is more attached to their parents and results are same, either divorce or everyday arguments. Girls should not tell everything to their parents whatever happens in their in laws.
Yes thats what my 1st point tells
Oh and you haven't seen cases where men live with their parents and how it causes divorce or daily sas bahu arguments or disagreement between couple?? Wow. The man's parents interfere the most in a marriage. And are you saying men aren't attached to their parents?
You are the perfect example of a red flag for any sane woman. And I can guess why your wife divorced you. Anyone would. Everything you wrote can be said the same about a man. "Never marry a man who lives with his parents and doesn't understand what marriage is about. Never chose a mama's boy who is attached to his parents. Never let him visit and talk to his parents either" - did this offend you.? This is exactly how you sound. So inhumane.
Don't keep double standards for men. If you expect something you should give it back in return. Ok if a woman shouldn't talk hours on phone, then you asa man Shouldn't even be living with your parents.
The reality of marriage isn't your definition of patriarchy. Just because you say "oh girls should not be attached to parents in order to be a good wife" doesn't make your words true. It just shows your upbringing.
You need to be a man first and understand the seriousness of marriage. It doesn't include a woman replacing her own parents with a man's parents. In-laws are just your partner's parents.
What do men do for wife's parents?? Expect the same from your wife nothing more. That's what Balance means.
I am appalled at the male entitlement you showed here.
I can clarify a lot of things what you have written but dont wanna get into an argument hete
The chicken correlation falls flat. You should have come up with a stronger example. Anyway, whether I have crossed that bridge or not is irrelevant. But what you are saying happens more in an arranged setup, maybe love marriage would have been better.
I agree with you on this
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