Kindly STFU, don't fucking advice me to get married

At the end of the day, it remains my choice to not get married.

"Oh, how are you gonna hold yourself in your old age? You will be all alone"

"You definitely need a partner to lead with your life"

"Marry early. You are already 28. If it's too late, then you and your wife will have trouble having a baby"

These are some of the lines I keep hearing.

I respect those who respect this decision of mine.

And those who don't. I understand why you are saying that. But bruh you don't know me.

I mean if I fuck my marriage, because I am the toxic element, will you (who have been giving advice to get married) take the motherfucking responsibility? No, right? So how about you STFU and let me live my life the way I want to.

I am fucking irresponsible and marriage comes with a sense of fucking responsibility. I fail a lot when it comes to being responsible in my personal life.

I have already annoyed my ex a lot in my past relationship being way too possessive and all. Hence, I don't want to make my wife's life miserable as well.

Let me fucking enjoy/suffer if I have to.

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DizzyBiscuit

Stealth1mo

I appreciate your decision. Don't listen to anyone. Just do what feels right to you.

TwirlyJellybean

Stealth1mo

Thanks

GigglyQuokka

Stealth1mo

Bol to aise rha hai jaise line lagi hai ladkio ki.

TwirlyJellybean

Stealth1mo

Unfortunately, aapke jaisi kismat nhi hai mere paas. Aur hoti bhi, tab bhi my decision won't change.

TwirlyDonut

HCL1mo

I was in the same situation as you are right now 15 years ago, later when I reached 35 , I started feeling emptiness in my life and I got married.. Eventually you will get married.. This mindframe you are having is momentarily only.it will change when you will see ppl laughing and enjoying festivals like Holi and Diwali around you.. Then you will feel why I am alone without a wife and babies....

DizzyBiscuit

Stealth1mo

He said he is irresponsible and toxic, what if he mistreats his wife and makes her life hell? Who will be responsible for that buddy?
He should only get married when he is ready to change not just because of emptiness

TwirlyJellybean

Stealth1mo

I do feel a sense of loneliness when I see some couples enjoying, smiling.

This feeling of envy was at its peak when I was around 24, 25, now it's a lot less.

As for kids, the world in general is a hellhole. And let's not even get started with the education costs in a Tier 1 city in India. So yeah, that's gonna be another burden which I am not interested in handling.

I really appreciate your kind comment and feedback, but my issue is that I am idealist ( thankfully not in my professional life, but in my personal life)

For me, if I have to settle with someone, I have to be the greatest husband out there. Unfortunately, I fear that I might become a carbon copy of my father (in terms of handling a marriage).

You can assume that this decision is also influenced by how I have witnessed my parents marriage fall apart because of my father.

And yes I don't want to be like my father. I want to change. I tried a lot, but in certain areas I have failed to improve in certain areas where I really needed to.