Just doubts or need suggestion
I am 28 f .unmarried right now .Till the age of 26 my father strongly believed in horoscope and he rejected many profiles based on that. I had fight why he believe in horoscope? Then many people come to visit for meeting. I don't know why almost eight people came and saw me . They have rejected me . And one boy family just said we need fair skin girl eventhough he is earning less. Now they are coming to us again because he got laid off. Not sure why guys are rejecting me . I don't know I look simple not much groomed, introvert. Because of these rejections I am aging .Everyday I used to have fight with my parents , they will blame me . Even some guys are not accepting matrimony request though they are 32,34 age . It feels tiring. I don't know what are the expectations? I feel suffocated to meet all the criteria. Now I am not feeling any interest in marriage . Earlier I have mindset that as a girl I should adjust as per husband family. I am not interested in meeting guys anymore. Eventhough they are not career oriented , they do have much expectations. Love marriage is far better than arrange marriage.
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Here's my advice - take it this way, whatever has happened it's for your own good. So don't blame yourself for it. It's not your mistake. Someone should explain it in a better way to your parents, so that morally you get the support you deserve. Just take a break from all of this, focus on your career, excel in your life leaving all this behind. I'm sure you will find the right person during this journey without searching. All the best 👍
Next 6 months
0) ask your parents 6 months time. Meanwhile don't stop searching for matches.
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Goto mirror rate yourself. Day-1. Notes changes you need. - setting target.
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Join the gym for 6 months and take good food (eggs, nuts, fruits) - will get good physic.
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goto parlour. Take skin care.For grooming issues.
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Be positive and happy for whatever. Try to earn more than now.
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Educate your parents. Horoscope doesn't matter if there is no compatibility with a partner.
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Be disciplined in all above.
Okay, let's be real! Do you want to get married? If yes dress up a little and go out, there are plenty of choices out there. If not, find a hobby, something that makes you feel excited and good about yourself. Try that and a partner might come along one day. If you can't do either, sign up for Shaadi.com and get married.
I have registered in all matrimonial sites. But not sure what ,where it goes wrong. The boys rejecting me even when I send interest or came to visit me . I have only one question or I am getting hurt that they are rejecting may be they do have choices or expectations. But I should accept the guy whoever comes to me irrespective of how he can be . The girl should not have expectations. If I say no to anyone , my parents would scream at me . For these guys whether they are saying at them . It seems nothing. Why the insult , disrespect ,blame everything goes to the girl alone . Till age 26 my father believed horoscope everything and filtered guys only on horoscope. I believed him completely. Now I am the one who suffers most. If you ask me whether I want to get married , my answer us yes . I need long term friendship not all these chaos.
Frst of all there's no such thing that love marriage is far better or arng mrg is far better..it depends on both of you how your marriage will be ..that comes from understanding and compatibility maybe in arng mrg also you can find someone of that type but not rushing over it ... getting married just bcz you are 28 and God forbid you might be unhappy about it forever...take your time ,start loving yourself regardless of the looks age ... whatever if you start liking yourself no one can put you down or maybe it won't matter next time someone say something about your looks ...and please don't try to give tags for anyone's worth ..like he is 34 but you r 28 so he might be desperate to get married...that's very wrong from my perspective..he might be 34 or 44 ,is he the person you can live with!!!!
Sometimes... I feel like i want to save everyone..
You are not aging. If you keep positive thoughts and stay happy on the inside you can look as young as 18. Count the things that are right in your life and you will feel blessed. I got married at 32 for a female, so 28 is not late. Marriage is not about correct age it about finding the right person who likes you for you. That’s very important because you will also be doing that for your spouse. Have confidence in yourself and in whatever you do or have achieved. Confidence is a very attractive quality no matter what. While it’s wrong for your parents to blame you, I think they are just in a panic even though it’s not really needed. But they can’t help themselves parents do worry. And yes it’s true the expectations about looks and everything is all there but if it’s not your favour that doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you or you are lacking in anything. Looks fade in a few years or even get overlooked a few years into the marriage. If someone can’t see your inner beauty then then there is something wrong with them. You just need to believe in yourself no what anyone says to you. And no you don’t ever have to adjust so much as per boys expectations if he can’t adjust to any of yours. You should do things that will add confidence to your life. Get grooming as suggested by few people, it does help build confidence - dress well, wear nice shoes, try and polish your personality, go to a hairdresser, eat healthy and get an exercise routine, just invest in yourself. I am also an introvert I get it. Sometimes things take a lot of effort from our own end. And women mostly have to put 3x-4x more efforts, that’s just part and parcel of being a woman.