Is infertility crime or only female related ?
Married , now in stage of divorce bcs I found few months before he was married and got baby to another girl( already married and have 2 kids) and even settled her husband for divorce , it's for 2 yrs totally while he was cheating me , I was facing his anger, scoldings , ignorance, loneliness , guilt pressure , his absence etc bcs I was trying for baby and taking my second IVF in my parents place hoping to get it successful since my first IVF failed and he pressured to have baby of his own blood? I adjusted all his accusations, mood swings , absence etc with heavy heart, emotional trauma , loneliness etc bcs I am guilty by myself baby is not happening, while I was taking myself through this painful journey all by myself with assumption baby will make my life happier it's utter shock to learn about his betrayal , when confronted he simply said " he needs to prove his manliness , so it's the situation and moment he hold the baby was priceless and I don't have any rights or status to accuse him or that affair girl, she too said we mutually like each other and we are living what's ur problem can't u stay shut? And they were also saying "adultery is not crime , so i cannot be punished and I don't need divorce , u continue ur IVF treatment , get baby , keep that as holding and live ur life I will visit u monthly once , I will convince my lovely(affair) to this setup , don't make any noise , u earn and continue living if ur expenses exceed ur earning I will provide , other than this don't lose ur time and money in legal proceedings bcs I have my own way and influence. Else if u definitely need divorce, get ur dad provided things and jewel and transfer our joint property to my name and leave silent, I have invested in business ,so that's all I can give also I have around 2lakh spending for my family each month, so I should take care of it " having said all these he now openly living with that girl and family , both family accepted this relationship and now blaming bcs I am childless , while I have my embryos freezed and only Embryo transfer pending but all stopped and now am living n hostel and contining my job, so did I commit any crime here to deserve this ? While am running a round legal proceedings bcs I need to prove everything he is just living his life , enjoying his baby arrival , taking girl of that women children saying he is their father , but just want me to lay low bcs I am alone , I don't have to provide anyone and he says me to earn and live a dignified life bcs not all betrayed womens keep sulking and they stand on own legs , I just don't get it , on top of me emotional, mentally invested myself in painful journey of treatments , beared all this trauma I am just thrown out , so now I lost everything, in process of recovering and law asks for evidences ? Painful journey
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Both are parts of society. It's just that we need to accept that both things happen.
First things first you didn’t commit a crime he did( provided you were married under Hindu legal act and he got married the second time while being married to you)
and secondly no if you are dealing with a medical consultation it’s not a crime . Thirdly always remember not in this condition but in any future condition too , a child cannot fix your marriage. From what you have written your husband was already problematic and you were just hoping that a child would have fixed it! So forget him, You just averted a disaster.
Please stop blaming yourself . I know what I am going to say is a repetition but pls be strong! At this point of time you feel like a victim because of what happened to you, but being strong right now is not a choice it’s a necessity! Life has given you another chance to live the way you want so why not become the best version of yourself !
Start working out, walk, run, anything, work on your physical strength , eat well , try to sleep well. Focus on your work , skill up- switch , earn more money. There’s a world out there waiting for you! Just start living for yourself.
Thanks everyone for the response , yes I started with legal proceedings but still pain is mine because the guy is living openly with that relationship since everything came out and no need to hide , but as per law I need to prove bcs am accusing him , tough journey, so many setbacks , for me this is the first relationship and given my background I was with ethics marraige for lifetime and now all broken..so many things to be amazed about , ya I am also trying each day trying to balance out, focusing my work and letting it go bcs it's not worth it , let's C
But thanks for the response everyone , venting out helps.
Adultery IS a crime in India and is easily accepted as a valid reason in divorce cases. It's good that you have already left his house. Now, just gather some courage, strength, money and a lawyer and proceed with the divorce formalities. I know it won't be easy, but please don't lose any hope and stay strong. And, just know that there's no fault of yours in all of this.
All the best!
Adultery isn’t a crime in India.
Just a ground for divorce
Gather evidence and drag him to court !!! And divorce him asap. You being infertile cannot be the reason for him to cheat on you.
Leave him asap. Kids are important and nice but not having kids cant be the reason for him to torture and cheat you.
Gather evidences, you need to be a literally strong woman now. Never let your emotions get the better of you.
Today your pain will translate to tomorrow's indomitable spirit in you. You'll thank yourself later.
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I think you posted about this sometime back also.
Sorry to hear about your ordeal
Assuming we are discussing a Hindu Marriage here.
Adultery is not a crime under Hindu Marriage Act
Second Marriage is a Crime under Hindu Marriage Act
Please hire a good lawyer and bankrupt him and his entire family.
First of all, I suggest that you join and spend a few days at a naturopathy or Vipassana center. Your mind needs some peace. High levels of stress, emotional trauma, and depression are among the most common causes of infertility. Therefore, it’s important to focus on healing yourself internally. This will ultimately give you more clarity and confidence in dealing with this issue. Good luck!
No you didn't commit any crime. Instead of supporting you during this time he chooses to cheat you. If you want you can take divorce and live your life the way you used to live before marriage.
Nowadays it's very common , many females taking ivf treatment. Nothing wrong with that.
Just sit peacefully and think what you want to do in your life now? Prepare a bucket list whatever you want to do and earn money and enjoy life.
Do you have a Job or not? If you have, focus on your job first, and meanwhile once you get calm, you can plan for some legal recourse.