I shut down under pressure

My advice is simple. Spite. Hate the situation so much that you come out of that, or conquer it with pure spite. The Hatred of ever being found in such a situation will propel you towards success.

What kind of pressure? Work? Emotional?

It's a natural human tendency. The important thing is to take a break for sometime and introspect about the things. Do a retro session. Try to understand what is happening, how you respond to things, self awareness is an important thing. Try to understand both yourself at a physical and mental level. Both physical and mental health is important. We live in a fast paced world where everything is important. The co-operate world puts you under a lot of pressure. I'll suggest you to take the notebook pen. Spend some time alone. Try to write down things which bothers you, what is your short term and long term goal, are you taking care of yourself and look at physical health as well. What kind of food do you eat that impacts both your physical and mental health. Also what kind of things you consume like social media, instagram and other things impacts a lot. Try to list down what you eat, your daily schedule. The main thing is being written down which troubles you a lot , any fear in mind, any trauma.
Try to find the solution to those things one by one. Observe yourself on how you react to certain situations. If your brain is unable to think about anything under pressure or getting frozen it's known as brain fog. Try to reduce your screentime. Don't over think. Stop using social media. Don't watch porn / do masturbation. Don't eat processed food / outside food. Try to sleep for atleast 7hrs. Make sure walk daily / exercise on regular basis. If possible do the mediation. Try to find the long term solution instead of short-term. Also lifestyle changes are required.

Book recommendation: Hacking Health - Mukesh Bansal Dopmain Detox Read blogs and watch videos related both physical and mental health.

Medicine: Himalaya Pure Wellness Brahmani for 60 day's.

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I have been under pressure for almost a year now because of overload of work. I did reach out to others but it didn't work. So, I had to deal with it on my own!! It's frustrating ik, I literally felt depressed and I still do. But, a month ago I reached my peak point, my body was tired as well. So, I decided to work hard to get out of this situation. I started investing my non-working hours into studying new skills. No matter what, my only aim is to get out of this situation at any cost. Also, listen to your body when it says let's take a rest today and then restart again. Listen to music, try yoga, watch something good that will make you happy or just sleep to get yourself back to fighting mode. It's not so easy but we can get back to ourselves. Slowly things will definitely change.

My mind goes blank too under pressure, but i do want to get out of it.

If it is a work thing and particularly related to software, start this practise.

1. Identify what the RCA was.
2. Calmly analyse how far along you were towards the RCA. If not, how deviated you were.
3. Identify the gap in knowledge or skills.
4. Read up on the gap.
5. Rinse and repeat.

The part below is more general in nature and may apply to a broad spectrum of things in life.

When someone says to toughen up, what they usually are referring to is to develop an attitude of not quitting g without giving it your best shot. If you are unavailable to resolve something, seek help. But don't throw up your hands in the air and say that this is impossible.

Fear of failure is a common trauma response and a manifestation of the situations you faced growing up, it is also a prominent symptom through which several neurodivergent conditions (like ADHD, OCD etc) are expressed. No shame in getting checked and/or finding coping mechanisms in the meanwhile (think gamifying, challenging your ego, spite, shame etc. although not healthy)

But reiterating the common cliche, focus only on the inputs, the consequences of a bad output are never as bad as they are in your head, but not attempting definitely is.

As a teen and a relatively young adult, I used to Chide at the mention of personal growth thinking it is an excuse against spending time acquiring knowledge or hiding from honig skills, but then once you grok what it actually means and what it changes for you, you won't leave the path. I mention this because, the returns are non-linear/not apparent for the time you spend, but stick to it and trust the process

This thread is the epitome of men (and others) will do anything instead of going to therapy.

@AdeptTurret6 sounds like you might have high anxiety levels or similar issue. Consult a psychiatrist once and get a diagnosis done. If all is well, try all the other suggestions in the thread.

I have a similar issue. I start overthinking. And when I see that I can procrastinate a bit, I do it and start adding pressure to myself as the dates near. I also get excited by the prospect, but can't sit down and put the small incremental regular work to actually make some progress.

Put your self in such situations over and over again and infact look forward for it.

Se what you are missing introspect and improvise !