I really need mentally support. Please help
Hi all, I really need your support right now for my mental health. I am emotionally and financially dependent on my husband and recently I had a panic attack as he has been controlling me emotionally and financially for the last 5 years and suddenly stopped talking to me from 10 days which is very hard for me to handle. I feel very depressed and overwhelmed. I have a 4yrs old daughter and I’m worried about my future because my salary is not enough to manage everything alone and no family support as well. Please suggest me during this time.
I went through something similar. I waited for 13 years, hoping he would change, at least for my son. My parents are very orthodox, and whenever I shared my situation, they just told me to adjust for society.
I even lost my second baby during my 7th month of pregnancy because of all this. Still, they asked me to adjust for my son and for what people would say.
Now, after 13 long years, I’m finally free and living peacefully with my child.
Looking back, I do regret waiting so long and adjusting even after facing abuse.
I’m not telling you to separate, but whatever decision you take, make sure it’s something you won’t regret later.
Simple and Best way. It will take three days.
Just write 3 grateful sentences for him like this or change accordingly:
I am grateful for my husband because he loves me and we enjoy our life as a happy family. Thank you for my Happy, Lovely and secured life provided by him. Thank you for my current life situation.
Write it three days and give it to him. He will feel valued and being grateful will sort things out. I tried and it works. Since then I write everyday and living a happy and wonderful family
Some people really deserve Alimony + maintenance .
Just talk to him. It will be all okay. A wise man once said all fight should end before bed on same day. You should not stretch.
It's been 10days I'm begging him to talk to me, even yesterday I was literally crying and asking for my mental support but he said don't spoil my weekend
When kids grow like when he is around 7+ years you won't feel emotionally and financially controlled.Dont worry just give it some time and the relationship with your husband will also fix.Just focus on good things,focus more on your health and good routines.See if you can learn something new.meanwhile when your mental peace is well your husband also will start talking.From what u say I feel you are exhausted and depended on him because you are also raising a kid.As time passes u will feel less exhausted and eventually he will also continue talking.Just don't nag him constantly with emotions.Imean try to.Because he surely can't handle it.Keep the emotions away and only use your brains when conversing with him.All the best and all will be well dear!!
Thank you, currently I'm trying to do that focusing on health, career but somehow I get emotional. Every night I cry alone, wash my face and come back to release me emotions
As a husband I can give some advice, if he is not talking to you then give him space. Whenever you do interact, make sure you smile genuinely forgetting all that had happened. Sitting and talking to resolve conflict doesn’t work as the women magazines suggest. If it’s this bad you need to treat it as an elephant in the room until his mood changes, and then maybe you can start a conversation. Make sure don’t blame anyone, the aim should only be to avoid this scenario in future. Do something nice for him without mentioning or expecting him to accept. For me it’s morning tea. You will know what works for him. Don’t give him any drama or emotional outburst, it’s not a teenage gf bf relationship, it’s real and demands both of you to be mature and mentally at peace to face storms that life presents.
Men also go through a lot, even if he doesn’t mention he is already stressed and anxious about family’s future. All good husbands are. They wouldn’t say this but it’s something that doesn’t let them sleep peacefully. For most life outside home is a struggle, when they are at home they want to enjoy quiet and peace with a cup of tea or coffee. It’s mentally not possible to manage your spouse’s emotion and drama as a second job at home.
I am writing this answer assuming that he is a good person. All the best!
Also you seem like a very good person.. I’m sure you will be able to fix things
There’s a Japanese saying If you ever get on a wrong train, get off immediately at the next stop. The longer you wait, the cost of returning back would go higher
Not provoking, but you need to decide if the train is wrong or just a rough patch
Sidha bolo you're not attracted to him. You told whatever he did wrong. You didn't said what you did wrong.
My 2 bits: Make it work with him. Otherwise, youre making your daughter fatherless. It is going to destroy her emotionally. Not a good foundation to live a stable life for your kid.
U dint share full story..hw can ppl suggest here alimony. Dis is one sided story. 10 days no talk on what reason? If u say baseless then try to find out n confront it instead of sitting silent and posting here. Ppl cant help you truly with wrds. Wrds will gives just sympathy not results. Better find out reason or may be u r already aware what was issue to now talking for 10 days.. u r mother of ur kid then be brave and initiate talk n sent confidence example to ur kid.
