I feel like something is bothering me
So i came across many posts so thought of sharing my story as well.
I used to roam alone in school and college except talking to random people out there.
I thought I was a one man army and by god’s grace I didn’t ever felt the need to be with someone and I was really happy been alone. My favourite thing used to be to observe people, I just learnt and learnt from people around me and became a very calm version of myself and thereby started noticing patterns in behaviour of people like how they behave and stuff.
Now coming to present im doing well enough in my career but I feel like that one man army person is not happy nowadays, loneliness haunts me and that too having no friends to talk to is even more daunting.
I had developed social anxiety over time as well due to which I rarely come into contact with people now and i always feel how ironical is it to be in the most populated country in world and still be a loner. I just don’t feel like coming out of the shell j lust to find someone cuz I’m not a very social person to the core as I always have been much of a person who cherishes not so loud places.
Now it’s just that I cannot become what I’m not to find someone. It’s just that i feel too lonely at times. Don’t know anything tbh just felt like sharing. Hope I didn’t spoil your mood guys!.
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Hey Bro, here’s a tip—not a warning, No female friends right now, it might complicate things more than you’d expect.
Instead, focus on hobbies you’re naturally good at, maybe cricket, badminton, or hitting the gym. Pick one and show up consistently, like 2-3 times a week. You’ll start meeting people naturally. Take your time watching how things flow before jumping in, connect when it feels right.
Also, I get the vibe you might want to bring a girl into your life. From what I’ve seen in my circle and how things are lately, I’d say don’t think on that lines, chances are it won’t bring the happiness you’re hoping for.
Cool Mate, You are not in trouble — You just need to progress and everything will be alright soon.
Thanks man, appreciate it!
100% agree here. Testosterone is very important for men to boost their confidence and mood. This might sound like coming straight from Andrew Tate, but it’s the truth. Just indulge in a lot of physical activity, get up in the morning, try running/sports/gym as he said and you will start feeling the boost and hopefully build a circle. Check out Andrew huberman’s videos on YouTube to see what he says. This might not solve the problem end to end, but definitely put you in a better place.
Thank God I'm not left alone with the same feeling in this world. In the office environment surrounded by 12+team members having lunch I always sit blank and I struggle to merge into the topic discuss only I can withstand 2 mins talk. I wonder how people start a simple conversation and keep that going.
Though I have multiple thoughts in mind and I don't express it most of the time I just keep on observing people.
I wish I had some power to crack few jokes and keep me engaged during my lunch time.
Damn, it's so relatable, same here, team with 12+ members, people talk random stuff, I keep myself in a corner and mind my own business eating, while they crack jokes and enjoy and what not, I don't feel like indulging but again can listen and enjoy within as well.
Same boat
Are you someone who likes spending time with himself/herself or someone who has problem taking to others.
If it's the former then you are an introvert and i think there is nothing to worry about as you already like your company more than anybody else's.
But if it's the later, which i believe it is since you want to talk to other people, then you are not an introvert rather someone who has difficult time talking to others. The only to way to get improve here is to just go and talk and have as many awkward conversations as you can because that is how you will improve.
I earlier used to spend time by myself not now, I feel too lonely at times and i don't really say much to people around
So much relatable!! I like the peace of being alone, but sometimes I feel like need of a person to move chit chat gossip and roam!! After college days it's been so bad I'm not even uttering a word out of my mouth during these days!!
Bro 🥺
Yeahh.. but u know what, I have started taking it positively now. Few months back, I started to talk to a few ppl in my new office. I liked them we talked mostly I listened. But somehow they got new offers, and left the company telling me lies, and expect u to forget lies. So, what's the point of all this? Be happy with yourself, if some one wants to be in your circle they will come, but yeah nothing is permanent and life goes on.
At times like this, I cry a lot, but later, you gotta stand and live, trying new things, enroll in new activities, on one such activity I was feeling great everyday, it was 21 days activity. Wish you get out and give some hours on weekends in any events. That was which I started with coming out of all this thoughts.
