Hyderabadis or Angerabadies
People say Hyderabadis are some of the nicest people. I've been here in Hyderabad for 1.5 years and I can tell you, They're not nice. They're one of the angriest people I've met in my life and I've been around. I've lived in Mumbai, Kerala, Bangalore and now at Hyderabad post marriage. It feels like I'm in this wierd place where if people approach you, it's to complaint or fight.
I've had 1 guy complaint to me saying my windchime is disgusting and that he and his daughter are not able to meditate because of it. I live in 5th flr & he's at ground. When we check with the home owners, they told me to keep it and give the complaint no mind. Then guess what happened. The guy started harassing my owners. He somehow got hold of both the couple's numbers and started sending messages daily 4–6 times. Then the owners told us that he was torturing them and shared screenshots, after which we removed the windchime from inside our balcony.
The roads are shit. I've seen some bad roads and these are officially the worst. There was literally a portion of the road that was missing near my place. During the rains, the whole area would get flooded and we wouldn't be able to see where the hole starts. During this time, people just use the one way as a two way to avoid accidents. And guess what happened. When I did this, 1 tempo guy comes and hits my car. There was light and he didn't even bother slowing down and hit the right side of the car. I was driving. I remember thinking for a short moment before the impact, is this my end. We argued but I was on the wrong side so there was nothing I could say. We then left for the car service centre. When we came back, people were gathered in that area. Turns out, 1 guy went on the right side of the road in his bike and fell in the hole. A water tanker came from behind and hit him and went on. The guy died on the spot. When the people tracked the tanker and questioned him, he said he had no idea he had hit someone. This was just moments after my accident.
Next came diwali. Me and my husband were going to buy the diwali lights. The road was supposedly fixed by now. Or so I thought. The road was wet. Either it rained or the water fell off the water tankers that frequent this road. I was in the backseat of our Activa. We were going, happily thinking about how we'll decorate our house. It was our first diwali after marriage. Next thing I know, I was lying flat on the road. My husband forgot the hole and we fell in it. My hand was bleeding nonstop and my husband had scratches all over his hands and legs. It's the first time I was in an accident. We went to the nearest hospital where the nurse tried to pull the skin out that was cut in my hand with his bare hand. It's a pretty deep cut, not something you can just pull off. Then he takes a scissor that was lying there, unsanitised and tried to cut my skin. I screamed in pain. This was brutal. It would get infected. So I left. We bought our own dressing and dressed ourselves. The next day we got tetanus shot. My husband was fine, but me - I got high fever. The whole diwali, I struggled to decorate and do puja and all the required things. We managed 1 photo where we looked .. well.. not sick and in pain.
And now yesterday I was taking my dog out for his walk. He's a pug. The area has lots of strays. Everytime I go, they try to attack me and my dog. The whole place is like a dumpster with trash everywhere. There are water filled potholes too. It's disgusting. But there are no other places to go for his walks. I don't take him to any of the nice places. The main road is also not safe. It was night, around 9:30pm. There was no light in the area. We were on our way back, when 1 guy who was on the phone approached me. He said you can't walk your dog here. This is a private land. It actually wasn't. It was the road. I asked, This road is a private land? He said yes. I told him, it's not. He said, even if it's not, you can't walk your dog here. He'll pee everywhere. I was standing next to a huge pothole and I've seen people pee in the bush next to that multiple times. There were even stray dogs lying about. I pointed to them and said first you get rid of these strays. They're the ones staying here. Also, this isn't a private land. He said, let me take your photo and tried to take mine and my dogs photo. He came too close to me and I got scared. I told him How dare he take my photo and I took a few steps back. My pug who can easily win the laziest dog in the world award, who sleeps 21–22 hours a day and lives only to eat and sleep, he barked at the guy and showed aggression. He probably felt my fear and tried to protect me I guess. This made the guy take a few steps back. But I think he took a photo or video. Im not sure what I should do. I, ofcourse will change my dog walking route, coz I don't want to be cornered at night in a street with no light, I feel scared just thinking about it.
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- pothole - nationwide problem. Pro tip: don't drive into it.
- windchime - if it bothers someone that much, just remove it instead of fighting for it like it's a life or death issue.
- trash collection - "sorry, will take care of it"
- dog - doesn't your society have areas inside where you can walk the dog?
You seem to be living in a dumpster area. Maybe change the locality.
The windchime "story" gave me the impression the author is just a bellyacher. In most Western countries, the police would have been called on day 1.
Pothole - if it's so big that you can't avoid it, you'll have no choice but to go through it. Also, please note. I didn't call it a pot hole. It's a legit hole. And when it rains, due to water logging, you can't see it. They fix it, but it still reappears every now and then. Windchime - I removed and put it inside where it doesn't chime. But this was such a weird request and the lengths he went to ensure it was removed was remarkable in a way. Trash - I've changed my approach. I always check if they're picked or not. If they miss, I put it back inside. No need to inconvenience others coz of this. Dog - The society is not friendly with dogs also. There are lots of people with dogs, but if by chance any mistake happens wherein he pees or something, then there's an anti dog gang of people who would come after me. Recently 1 dog (I think a lab) jumped on a person, then the owner apologised and took the dog home. I think a group of some 6-7 people went to their home. They didn't open the door and said that they went out in the WhatsApp group. The gang was threatening to lock the door from out. The dog owner came and settled the matter but this is the extent people go here. Since people are reacting so extremely, I was avoiding it and going out so that we don't trouble anyone even by mistake. The colony in itself is not so bad. It's clean and has a gated community. Outside it's a different story. People though, I don't feel good about them
There was one more weird incident. My neighbour, who works as a Data Scientist in Microsoft, only approaches us if he has to complaint. He has set up a CCTV camera right outside his home, which is bang opposite to mine. He is also a part of the society’s maintenance team. Might even be the head of maintenance, I don't know. We keep our trash out next to the door by 8am. By 8:30 or 9 am the trash guy comes and collects them. One day, he didn't collect ours for some reason. I think he forgot. There was 1 blinkit paper bag with the trash bags that I kept outside. I put an empty peanut butter container in the bag so that it doesn't fly off. I knew the trash guy would come soon, so I thought it would be okay. But since he missed taking my trash, the bag remained there. I was unaware that it was missed. My husband was traveling at that time and I was alone. The Microsoft guy comes in the evening and tells me, my paper bag flew over next to the lift and another neighbour kicked it to his side. He proceeds to show the video where we see the lady using her foot to move the paperbag there. I apologized for the inconvenience and immediately took the bag and the trash in. He tells me to reach out to the lady and complain since she used her foot to move it to his side. I don't say anything. Next morning the doorbell rings and guess what - it's the Microsoft guy and the lady's husband (let's call him Dude). Dude tells me my trash (paperbag) went to his side and his wife had to move it. I apologized and told him I'll be careful that this doesn't happen again. Then he starts blasting at the Microsoft guy. Turns out, in the building owner's group, Microsoft put the video of the lady moving the trash with her leg. It became such a hot topic, Dude was ruthlessly fighting Microsoft guy coz of the video. Then he (Dude) tells me to be careful since no one here is understanding and everyone is weird. Dude tells me this!!! Did I mention that the Microsoft guy was in his baniyan and boxer and was brushing his teeth, so he had his toothbrush in his mouth while the toothpaste was strickling down his face when they were arguing.
There are so many more experiences, but I don't want to talk about each and every one of them. I can tell you. Bangalore isn't all that great, nor is Mumbai, but Hyderabad is at a whole other level. People in general are so angry and if you don't speak Telugu, then worse. My husband knows Telugu, but I don't. So I always feel left out when in groups and my general experience here is pretty bad. Whatever friends I managed to make, they all tell me to learn Telugu and proceed to talk in Telugu when I don't understand a thing. There are even people who don't understand any language other than Telugu. I feel so left out and alone. My job was in Bangalore, so I used to WFH. Last month I had to quit coz they wanted me to shift to Bangalore immediately. I'm now stuck here in this hostile place with no job. My husband told me he's looking for a job in Bangalore, but I see him getting offers only from Hyderabad, which is very Sus. At this rate I think I'll have to look for a job in Bangalore or wherever and move out by myself. I don't know. I'm mentally done here.
This doesn't feel like a society, more like a slum, where people keep on fighting on pity issues!
Madam take advantage of your gender. Remind them you are a woman and your husband isn't home. Stay away from arguments. Usher in some positivity.. good music, good decor, meditation and prayer are just some ways. Smile (very powerful weapon for self and others). Don't dwell on negative episodes. Remember you are strong. All is well.
Shall I cancel my Hyd job offer bcz what you narrated it crazy and crazy ppl and shitty city yuck 🤮
Don't immediately cancel coz of a post. I shared my experience. You can try to live in a decent place like Gachibowli or something where there's like a good crowd. Don't go to slightly interior places, that's where all these problems occur.
Hyderabad is pretty cool actually. The lady seems to be in an exceptional situation here.
Telgu peoples are like that only
Yeah. I learnt it the hard way
I get that you may have had or seen certain experiences, but it's not fair to judge an entire community of people based on that. Such people exists in all states and in all communities.
For your reference, The actual name is Telugu not telgu😄
Really seems like locality is the issue. I have stayed in hyderabad and it was a pretty decent experience in all of the above terms you mentioned. Rather I was really happy there.
If your house is not purchased, try looking for alternate accommodation areas.
I agree. I've only lived in this 1 locality so could be that. We just got married, so we haven't purchased a house yet. I guess we have no choice but to look for an alternate accomodation. We stayed here this long only because our house is quite nice. It's a spacious 3BHK with dining space and a small puja room. I like the inside part. It's the outside that's the problem
Rent? Area name?? Pls share Location of pothole/road.
Where do you live? The area you live in also matters for quality of life in a city, particularly in a metro city like Hyderabad. Towering buildings need support and maintenance staff, posh restaurants need cleaning and serving staff. Both the customers and employees of such institutions stay in samw city but need not stay in same vicinity. Upgrade to better Colony or society. Believe me quality of life is the best investment /purchase you can do in life. Because, life is short!
So you are saying a whole metropolitan city is bad because you met 4 bad people and some stray dogs ? Try therapy, it helps. Believe me sister, you will feel better.
I judged based on the sample I got. And yes, after staying here and my experience with these people, therapy does sound good. Never felt that though in any other city. So yes, this is my judgement post my experience with Angerabadies. And yes, you sound like one too. I'm glad we have never met 😊
Firstly there are good and bad people in every place on the earth. Just because you met a bunch of bad people you cannot generalize it to the entire city. Hyderabad is a blend of lakhs of people coming from different states like you and living harmoniously. All are not from the Hyd origin.
Secondly, If you have that much problem with Hyderabad you can happily go back to your hometown. Nobody is forcing you to stay right. We should have some respect towards the city that is providing us employment. If that is not the case for whatever reason it is better to leave. You will be happy and Hyderabad too
All this made OP to take career break 🥀
Nah.. don't worry. It's not that bad. I'm trying to change my domain to that of Data Scientist or Data Analyst. That's why took a break. Also, immediately shifting to Bangalore was not a practical solution at that time. I'm looking out now.
Best place no fucks given come to Rajasthan
Hehe...I've been there on vacation. It's quite lovely 😍