Girl 1 vs Girl 2
29 M, IIT alum and earning 40 LPA in Mumbai
No Financial responsibility of parents and looking to retire at 45 with atleast 1 kid in hometown.
Currently in an arranged marriage process and have talked to many girls but finally set my heart to choose from the following two:
Girl 1: Below Avg looks. Earns 35 LPA in IT
No noticeable red flags in her. Looks like a decent human being. Only thing stopping me is that I might, in the start of our courtship might not be happy with her looks. Maybe at some point later I'll stop thinking about it?
Girl 2: Beautiful. Earns 4 LPA as a teacher.
She's a PhD but salaries are low for teachers. No red flags. Only thing stopping me is the absence of financial security due to her salary. I do have decent savings but what if something goes wrong. Plus my friends all earn very well along with their spouses.
Who would you have chosen, ohh wise people of grapevine?!
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you need to tell us more? how has your conversations been with both? what made you shortlist them? do you feel connection with them? do any of them feel a connection with you? what do you want for your future to look like apart from the money angle? how would you want to raise your kid?
Since the beautiful one isn't earning and the one earning isn't an looker.
OP listen, any girl can turn into beautiful if she puts in the effort. All a girl needs is a gym and a bit of makeup. And every girl can earn in lahks.
But she should have the motivation to start looking good or earn more money.
Life is unpredictable, the good looking one can stop taking care of herself after marriage and her looks can decline. The not so looker can start taking care of herself and look good.
My word of advice is to set aside monetary factor and looks, you are going to spend like 4-5 decades with her. Get to know the real her, get to know if you can spend the next 50 years with her.
The whole point of you made the post is because you are leaning towards the looker, but get past that and get to know the IIT girl. First talk to her in a interesting way, don't look at her a money maker and will make life easier.
The one thing you need to get to know is, no matter what happens in the future she should stay with you on all your hardships. Even if you aren't earning, you can lose your job that is a possibility as well. 4L girl may stay with you and the high earned may not.
First get to know them apart from their looks and money
Bro is an IITian and needs us to make choice for his life partner? And what is this comparison - looks and finance? If you have a problem with her looks and consider her average, why choose her? And if the other is earning less than your expectations, then who asked you to stay or consider her? Ultimately in the future, that thing's dissatisfaction will make you despise the person even if they are good in a relationship. Choose someone of your interest rather than changing others who are not meant for you
Big decision to take man!
I voted for teacher because i feel 1 corporate in a house is more than enough. Having a teacher who has fixed work hours and rarely overtimes can be more caring for you coming tired from work late, compared to the 35lpa IT worker who will just be tired of her own work. And being beautiful is always a plus can’t deny that. My personal opinion though.
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Depends what matter you more, looks or money and the answer is simple. Don't compare with others.