Feeling lonely - Money is not everything
I have good career overall. It has been 3 yrs in Blr. I reached to a good base pay (25+). But lately it feels like money is not everything.
I do get lonely every now and then, it's not like I don't have friends but I want genuine emotional and romantic connection. Datings apps are dead for me, tried few times but either I didn't get match or it didn't work out. Number of girls in office is like almost equal to Nothing. No one from my college is in Blr, god knows why it's the way it is! I go to gym everyday. But almost everywhere I found committed girls, I don't know any girl who is single, everyone is in relationship or already living with bf.
Don't know what to do now, arrange marriage seems like a huge bet since you don't have more than a week or 10 days to figure out that you want to marry this girl or not.
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Bro, I'm also similar to you kinda. I just feel sad at times and seeing others like me also hurts a lot. I can understand your situation brother 🫂
Yeah bro it sucks! I'd a beautiful relationship won't deny that.
But she went on to choose government job in Jharkhand, and there is no scope for IT in Jharkhand so I can't move there either so we broke up because we couldn't imagine a future together because of the career priorities for both. She can't leave her job and I can't mine either.
Bruh I never dated anyone in my life, it might be a turn off for many ig as well
There are two kind of people in comments, one which have money problem and other which have relationship problem.
Meanwhile me who have both the problems 😔😭
Something that I've realised quite some time back regarding love is that if you're trying to get into a relation for the first time or trying to start it all over once again, the key is - "Showing up Somewhere Regularly".
The thing is the dating apps and stuff in my perception doesn't quite well suite someone looking for genuine long term love. So a solution that I've seen work is to show up somewhere regularly.
How this works is if a person 1 notices person 2 regularly - be it in the gym, a pub, a church or wherever, the mind of person 1 perceives person 2 as "someone familiar" with time. Gradually you could see you'll be able to exchange smiles or even small talks with each other. Person 1 may even recognise the other outside where they actually meet. For someone like you who feel lonely, I feel even those gestures would be a great boost for your self esteem.
If you feel your current circle doesn't include much girls, start creating new circles - maybe join a zumba class, dance class, yoga sessions that happen regularly or some place where you could meet someone matching your vibe...
Also something I recommend you do is to ask a close friend (preferably a girl) regarding what all improvements you could make within yourself so others find you attractive - be it in your character or even physique... Hope this helps...
Yes bro, your advice would be helpful to me! Noted down! Thanks!
From experience, I can say that Loneliness usually doesn’t go away even if you find someone. Of course having a partner does help in certain aspects.
But you gotta be happy and honest with yourself.
So, ask yourself honestly, what is it you want?? Put yourself in the shoes of the person you will become after you achieve what you desire.
Think earnestly!
Many confuse hunger with thirst!
So, find out what you want; before affecting someone else’s life.
Is it good Sex? Companion for fun? A lending ear? Someone to share interests with? Close Hangout buddy? Someone to take care of? Clubbing partner? A Female Bro?? A pillion rider??
Find the things you want. Strategise, improve and look for exactly that! Be earnest with your intentions; and you’ll find what you seek..
*Many confuse thirst with hunger and end up bloated..