Dating or finding someone compatible is quite hard. Can someone help in reviewing my profile ?
Hello everyone,
Apologies if this is not the right place to mention this but I thought I would post here and get some different opinions. I have not been able to find anyone so thought of posting a rough summary of my profile on here to get suggestions.
Some bio details - 28 (turning 29) Male, Bengali, Grown up in Bangalore, Religion is Hindu and salary is 50+ (though I have reduced it and mentioned 35-50 in most apps).
Here are a few things about me -
I love animals. I have a lot of pets. I am also quite close to my family and am surrounded by my loving pets (5 dogs and 5 cats). It’s very important you feel similarly about animals in order for us to get along.
I love reading. I am interested in programming, Mathematics, Chess, Science, Psychology, Geopolitics, Space, Literature (fantasy particularly or late but I like all kinds) and Self Help (Productivity and Positive Psychology) - and a lot more ! I'm generally intellectually curious and a lifelong learner.
I love following updates on things I'm passionate about and sharing them regularly. I love following podcasts and blogs and videos on them and sharing and discussing them. I also love explaining a new thing I have learnt as it helps me understand it better.
I tend to be positive and look at the brighter side of life usually. But I also like sharing the problems I am going through and like listening to your's.
I love putting in effort into messages and writing effortful messages and generally use complete words and not much abbreviations. I love crafting a symphony of text.
I am usually quite calm and supportive and remember things that are told to me in conversation. I like getting emotional and expressive and am soft hearted and sensitive. I am also quite mature and enjoy talking to similarly mature people.
I am quite empathetic.
I don’t want to rush into anything. I would like to talk and get to know each other well over time, without pressure. I would like to get comfortable, become friends, build understanding, date for a while before deciding on anything.
One interview, 1000+ job opportunities
Take a 10-min AI interview to qualify for numerous real jobs auto-matched to your profile 🔑One hard fact, reading the bio does not even start if your face is not ✨
That's the reality and nothing wrong with that, just that you're preparing to play chess in a wimbledon tournament.
Symmetrical faces (irrespective of gender) will get matches and dates even with ..... written in the bio. So put your efforts somewhere better.
That symmetrical face stuff is mostly bullshit from online incel forums of guys who have never talked to, or dated a girl in real life. But what is true is that online dating leans more heavily on looks, because of the swipe-right / swipe-left design of current dating apps.
In the real world girls will date guys with all sorts of faces, because they're attracted to their personality, confidence, sense of humor, intelligence, wealth etc.
But online dating is harder, because it is harder to convey all those other attractive qualities in an online profile, which means that for an average looking guy, you can get many more dates through in-person interactions at meetup groups, social events, hobby-classes, friends of friends network, etc., than from online apps.
Symmetrical face was just a metaphor, I am no where an incel 🥲
But you've put it very well
You seem like a well rounded person and thats great. The biggest issue with that is to discover these things about you, a potential partner has to give you a chance first and then dive in with you.
Thats generally not the case now a days where first impressions & marketing yourself are the most important.
Could pointers:
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if you salary is 50, say 65 online - because by the time you get deep with someone you’ll probably go thru another appraisal cycle, and others on platforms are inflating their stats so why are you downgrading yourself?
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GET FIT! This is the most important thing. Become the best, fittest version of yourself. You salary or anything else doesn’t matter if you first-impression photo isn’t catching attention. Invest in every aspect of your profile - your clothes, photos, fitness (you don’t need 6 pack abs, but you can’t have a beer belly). Once you get fit, you’ll get more confidence too!
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don’t come on too strong. Slowly build rapport, ask about them more then talking about you, share funny stories. You might be a pet lover but its not necessary that they immediately love pets as much as you. They can slowly get used to them - in your case regardless of whether they are cat or dog person cuz you have both!
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be open minded and be ready to compromise on some non-important things like sports likings, music choice, fav food type etc.. Don’t compromise on morals and values.
You are on the right path. You just need to position yourself better as a product in the market - sorry thats the reality.
Good luck!
Looks, height, money and nature
It will be hard to be honest. Chasing perfection always takes a lot of time without the guarantee of getting it one day. The most appropriate approach is to look for a bare minimum, make it work and then improve. However you define compatibility, people change with connections and age. I guess by compatibility you also refer to a connection. Honestly there’s no one way of making or finding it. What you do is interact with the person frequently enough and on different environments and scenarios and hopefully one day you may find what you seek.