Couples where husband is breadwinner and wife manages household chores are the happiest!
I'm 26 Male, I often observe that couples who are both working juggle between too many responsibilities, compromising on food and consequently their health, sometimes staying away from each other due to different work locations, living life and spending time together only on weekends, having very little free time from work.
On the other hand, an educated woman who is either artist (mahendi, nail, makeup, paintings etc), selling jewellery/clothes/homemade items or involved in some work thay they love and is being done from home. In such cases, the husband focuses on generating income while the wife handles household chores and indulges in her passions during her free time, effectively dividing responsibilities.
I have seen such couples are the happiest with a very smooth life and are prosperous in every aspect.
I have always leaned towards wanting to marry a woman who is career-oriented, but lately, my perspective is shifting towards preferring a non-working life partner.
What are your observations?
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You have written this in controversial tone, but it is something I have seen increasing lately. But the bottom or core of this insecurity and ego of the earning partner. Money is not a problem, you just want the attention to yourself. Nothing wrong in that, and if the other person is okay with household chores - it works great.
The only problem is, the household partner going into work some years later. It will fuvk up the lives, because now they have money, confidence, and seen greater value of themselves
Controversial tone was intended to make more people comment🫣🙃
True but household partners going into work after a few years is rare, at least i have not seen any. The reason why they are not working in the first place is because the education degree/stream that they chose was either competitive or there was just no future in doing job e.g BA, BE Civil, BPharm etc.
It isn't rare, our parents generation had a lot of women starting to work/going back after "kids were old enough"
You can ask any of these families, women have faced turbulent relations but could navigate because money n confidence
Depends, yes those couples do appear happy without ego issues, conflicts, without a lot of difference of opinions etc etc. But what about 5 - 10 years down the line? I see these house wife aunties in yoga pants, pretending to go to gym talking non sense about some shitty serials/cooking recipes/gossiping. I would never want my wife to turn into such kind. I would definitely prefer a working wife who continually tries to learn new things, interact with people. Having fun is easy I want to be able to hold intellectual conversations with her. Yeah you mentioned educated, but being educated and being in touch with reality is not the same thing is it ? By going to office, interacting with people, different kinds of people, working on interesting projects I think is a better outcome. Plus, imagine this - you die for whatever reason, isn’t it good to have a working wife with a stable income to take care of your kids ?
And if you think working independent women can cheat on you, I would say it depends on the person, she has made up mind to cheat on you, she will cheat on you irrespective of “education qualifications”
Couples where husband knows how to handle his male ego and gives equal respect and opportunities to his wife are the happiest!
couples where the wife is not neurotic would always be the happiest.
Frequently, people have started using male ego as the term when the husband does not acquiesce to the wife’s demands/neuroticisms. Statistically if the wife is less neurotic, there is less drama, and both would be happy.
Neurotic is a strong word to describe a gender.
Ego is something we all have. Men tend to harden up on their thoughts and values and don't try to be empathetic about situations.
Adding to this, those looking to get married and are going through prospects, look for a partner who is passionate for success but not desperate. Someones who has high aspirations but also knows how to be content with what they have. You will live a happy life with such person.
Marriages fail because people have unrealistic expectations form their partner/society/themselves.
I think it's fool to have only one household income in this economy and market.
It's always wise to have 2 of them.
Depends where you live, in tier2-3 you can have a pretty much good life with even 7-10LPA that too living with parents. Sometimes your parents also working and earning so that's the additional income as well.
In the end, what really matters is the physical and mental health of everyone in the family and not the money.
You haven't tasted the lifestyle that a salary in crores gives and it shows.
Anyway, to each his own. I used education to escape the life of a tier 2-3 town and I like it that way. You can always ask your parents to move in with you, buy a nice villa and live happily.
You're confusing coincidence with causation. Both aren't the same. In my understanding, there will be three phases in any relationship.
- The honeymoon phase
In this phase, people see their partners as 'special' as in gods or goddesses. People will only notice the good qualities in them. They want to impress their partners by only showing the good qualities.
- The bitter-sun phase
This is when people start noticing the other not so special traits of their partners. Sometimes, they might even be very small ones. For example, my friend once was bothered because her husband started forgetting to cut his toe nails. The longer the honeymoon phase is, the bitter this phase will be. Usually, there will be quarrels in this phase.
- The understanding phase
This phase will happen only if both the husband and the wife started understanding other. This, is the phase where actual love will begin. For this to happen, there are 6 conditions.
3a. Husband must like the wife 3b. Wife must like the husband 3c. Husband's family must like the wife 3d. Wife's family must like the husband 3e. Husband's siblings must like the wife 3f. Wife's siblings must like the husband
From this phase, things will be happy in their marriage. How soon people enter this phase depends on the above factors.
ye 3 phase wali baat reels me dekha hua lagta h 😅
I disagree with your point. I have two sisters(one is a branch manager, another Chief manager at PSU), both of them living in Tier 2, and 3 cities. My brother-in-laws also work in govt jobs. They are happily married for more than a decade.
They share workload with each other. They don’t have cook nor do they have house help.
Sister 1 stays 2 house away from family, and works till 8pm in the night being a branch manager. Brother in law stays with their family(joint). Sister will do trips every weekend to visit her family. They have been married now for 15 years. Both brother in law and sister are happy.
Sister 2 and brother-in-law will share chores at home. One will cook and other will cut veggies/clean. Saves time.
They do a proper cleaning of house in the weekend. Both of them are happy. Married for a decade now. They drop their son in Creche.
Me and my wife stay in Tier I city. Married for 8 years. We share chores between ourselves. We are more than happy.
Reasons why people may not be happy in marriage.
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Couple spending their time on mobile and TV watching series rather than sharing chores. This leads to frustration.
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There is this male who which I have seen with lot of males. “I will not cook”, “I don’t know this that falana dhimkana”.
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The other one feeling “my work is more important” than yours, I have heavy work load, I need better rest. This will again lead to frustration for the other person.
It’s not about the job, it’s all about the attitude. Doesn’t matter whether you’re in Tier I, or Tier II cities. Shared responsibilities is required in marriage for it to be successful.