Body not keeping up with studies, gym, and job. I want to cry but no tears left.
23M, Software Engineer, 10 LPA.
Feeling a lot of pressure due to my high age as a fresher on myself.
Fixing myself from 6 months. Gave myself a deadline to get a good package, a good health and overall life.
All my friends are placed at very good companies with CTC of 30+. Most of them are 20 21 years old.
I feel exhausted and drained. Job, studies, gym is getting hard on my body. I feel days passing. Suicidal thoughts are being suppressed and burst out sometimes.
Idk what I should do.
Life is feeling that I started late. People around me enjoying their lives with proud parents and many having partners. People proud of themselves.
I live at a budget of 12k per month, in a sharing flat . I hardly have the courage to buy things I liked as a kid, a remote control helicopter, ice cream and burgers. I feel I need to proove myself to be eligible to live again.
Because at the end of the day, I failed, at JEE, at college, at life itself.
This is the last chance I am giving to myself.
How to navigate this situation.
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The day you stop comparing yourself with others will be the day you will be happy and start appreciating what you have.
Putting a blind eye to everything.
Tried that.
Didn't worked for me.
I agree with @Gavi , stop comparing and you will feel the difference.
Dude, i had 3.5LPA at 24 age. It's gonna get alright. Even with my salary now i still find it hard to save. You will find new problems to solve when you grow. I had missed JEE because I overslept. I did mechanical engineering and drifted around till I joined an offline course. It's gonna get better. Until you live, you'll have infinite chances to achieve what you want.
Similar profile and package when I was in early 20s.Was working as a civil engineer (nobody likes the work or pay!) Changed my role after finishing MBA, 10 years down the line find myself in a quant role at one the largest US banks. Few learnings for me :
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Seek out - As pointed above, don't get overly worried with where peers are. You are special with your abilities and talents, it's just about finding the one opportunity that will change your career. Actively seek it with full focus and clarity.
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Prioritize health - Both mental and physical. Physical fitness is not always about sweating it out at the gym. Lot of things help to keep you fit while making the toil enjoyable. Following a 30 min routine everyday is a must. Mental health is equally important - you need to let go of things you cannot control and prioritize getting things done that you can control.
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Prioritize relationships (especially family) - They are going to be your pillars down the road for many more years. DONOT neglect family, networking and relationships. You may find some inspirational figures in close quarters!
Every person's journey is unique. Cherish and try to be proud of yours. Who knows, years down the line, you may have an amazing story to tell!
All the best to you.
Bhai, I have 14 LPA at the age of 35. We are 4 in the family - me, wife and 2 kids. My younger son is in UKG and I am paying his fees 1 Lacs per year. I bought a 2BHK flat where I am paying EMIs. Can you compare yourself with me? Maybe then you will feel more relaxed.
Dam and here I thought I was doing good on 6 lpa at age 24. With this mindset you will never be happy just focus on improving urself man why caring about things which u can't control
6lpa at 24 is really good tbh
What's the rush buddy. Take your time.
If you're studying daily, maybe take one day break every week.
Go to gym but 3 days a week maybe.
Be consistent but don't burn out
Yes exactly, this advice is very underrated
You’re 23 — not defeated. Just distracted. 23 is not a crisis, it's unused potential.
You want clarity? Get off the pity treadmill and into the real world.
Show up at an NGO. Give your time. Go serve. Not for status but for something real. Feel the weight of someone else’s struggle. Skip a few gym sets. Go build grit instead.
You've been fed generations of timeline checklist BS. Chasing illusions and comparing highlight reels. From an era long gone. Dead.
Enough sulking.
Stop measuring, start living. Life hasn’t even started yet. Wake up. Go build it kid🫡
You think helping people will help him find meaning in life? It will make him value what he has? I've tried that. It doesn't help. In fact I don't go out to NGO's because seeing how difficult other people's lives are just make me feel shitty about not being happy about my life. It doesn't make me appreciate what I have more. It just makes me afraid of how easily I could lose everything.
agree with @FaultExcept 's feelings. Not everyone is cutout for charitable work, it takes a much bigger heart.
My dad is a doctor (75yo now) and for atleast 40 years of his adult life, he has given back to community in various ways - free health camps, awareness campaigns, founded eye banks and blood banks.
I can't even do corporate social responsibility weekends. it's tough, it shakes your moral high ground.
You have a better life than many others. First of all be thankful for that.
Are you living life with whatever you are earning? Or are you miserable? If your answer to is miserable is yes, then you don't know how to live with this salary. What makes you think your life will automatically be better if the salary was to improve.
Live in the present. Enjoy what you have. And then work hard to increase the salary.
Jack ma, colonel sanders, boman irani, nawazuddin siddiqui are examples that you can be successful late. And you are just 23.
My suggestion is that first you learn to breathe without the mental baggage you have created. If you can breathe with peace then focus on what next needs to be done to move to a higher paying job.
Damn felt like reading my story. And "I feel I need to prove myself to be eligible to live again." Hits hard, few of the people are okay with less and are happy and enjoying life but for us ambitious people for the time being it seems like life passing by and feels like becoming hollow with every second
It's not necessarily be ambitious to stay happy or feel happy
I started career at 25 with only 2,000 (two thousand) PER MONTH