Am I Not Enough Without a Price Tag?
I’m a 25F, and ajkal shaadi ki baat chal rahi hai ghr pr. But honestly, it’s exhausting. Almost every guy's family I hear about has one thing in common - they want dowry.
20 lakhs, 25 lakhs ... - like there’s a fixed price for a groom now. Is marriage about building a life together or about settling a financial deal?
Is it not enough for a father to educate his daughter, raise her with love, protect her dreams and still he’s expected to “pay” someone to marry her? What kind of logic is that?
When a guy's family asks for money, to me it just screams: "We can’t take responsibility for your daughter unless you give us financial support." Then why even marry?
A daughter - jisme uske parents ne apni zindagi ki mehnat, pyaar aur sapne invest kiye ..
Isn’t she enough? Why is it that even today, her worth is measured in how much her family can “give”?
It’s painful to see how marriage, which should be a bond of two souls and families, has become a business deal. And what’s worse- it’s so normalised, people don’t even see the problem anymore.
Maybe it’s just my thoughts… but this one thought has led to so many others.
Overthinking, questioning, doubting not about love or marriage, but about the world we’re expected to trust our lives with.
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Women are nonsense too. When they demand a groom with 50lpa salary while she herself earns a janitor's salary, society bends either ways
while i agree with it.. this was not required in this post
I understand your point expectations can exist on both sides and sometimes they're unfair. But this post wasn’t about comparing men and women or blaming anyone it was just one perspective, a personal experience. Let’s not divert it into a gender debate
Ig you're seeing the truth clearly. Ik marriage should be about love, not a price tag. If someone needs money to accept you, they don't deserve you.
- The right person will value you, not your family's bank balance and your worth isn’t in what they demand....it’s in who you are.....so don't stop until u find one....wish u the best :)
Dp you have requirements for the groom, are you asking for someone with a high salary package, people earning great amounts are often treated as assets by their family rather than treating them as humans, so these people will put dowry demand, power your requirements, look for someone at your level, maybe a little lower, they will not ask for dowry.
I can relate to this, I don't wanna take a single penny from my father now, I have seen him questioning himself for educating me because now educated guy asks for more money, I understand that one has the desire, but we should not burden the other person with ours desires instead we should try to fulfill it ourselves, again this is my thinking
Thank you for sharing this. I feel your words deeply .. it's heartbreaking to see fathers question their efforts just because society places a price tag on daughters' marriages. Your thought about not burdening others with our desires is powerful. I hope more people start thinking this way 🤜🏽🤛🏽🙂
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Working women and dowry isn't a combo in South. No working women is ready to give dowry here. I am getting married in few months and dowry is hardly 2-3 lakhs. Wonder who is asking 20L for a working women.
I think we need to look both ways, both the girl and boy need to understand what they want in the partner. Have seen girls rejecting guys basis their salary, boys rejecting girl for dowry. When both the issues are tackled we can have a society with equality. For your question, if you are earning around 10lpa for example, then don't look for a guy beyond that and then you can say to them that why are they asking for dowry when their son earns equal to you only. And I am glad I come from a community where dowry doesn't exist at all and that is why is feels so weird reading such posts especially in 2025.
Look at from Groom side
- You'll live free in his house and every property they've will automatically be yours as well.
- Your parents also wants a rich guy who's well settled.
- You're not giving him dowry, you're basically brings what yours from your family as a daughter you've right to your family worth and you're taking it and bringing it with you to your husband.
Please stop looking things from one perspective and start looking at the things from neutral point
I agree that both sides face pressure. But expecting a girl to ‘bring’ things from her family while calling it her right sounds like a sugar-coated dowry. Equality should mean shared responsibilities, not just shifting expectations.
We need a better world where all dowry opposing girls will also put same efforts to oppose those educated women when they asks for alimony while separating from husband (specifically when no dowry was given from bride side).
Hoping for best! 😇
