After 10 Years in IT — Why Do I Still Lack Confidence?
I’ve been working in IT for about 10 years now — across all kinds of companies (product-based, service-based, big, small) and in every kind of project: support, development, POCs, you name it. I’ve even worked in all possible time zones and on Oracle Cloud technology throughout. Despite all this experience, I still struggle with confidence. I often get anxious while writing emails, handling incidents, or even doing small tasks. I haven’t made any major mistakes, but even minor ones make me overly tense and fearful. I have never took my job lightly, never missed to update or be careless but I still face this. Is this normal after so many years in IT? Has anyone else felt the same way — and how did you overcome it?
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Stop overthinking!!
Believe in yourself, and work on actions. Whenever you are handling some incidents, stop fighting with your inner first, accept it and think about what's next?
And then just do it!!
I feel like - What if I do a mistake, what will my manager say. How will she shout etc etc...
I know I am overthinking for last 10 years but it has been since my school. Instead of manager, it was teacher.
Also. Thank you for taking some time to help me out here
I can relate. Tbh corporate is not for folks like us. To do well in this setting, you need to care less, fake confidence and what not. I don’t think this can change much if it stems from our own nature. But what I am trying for this is to have some backup in place. This will help ease the burden. If you’ve supportive ppl around in your work then you can do best there imo
I used to be the same when I joined corporate after graduation. If I understand it now, underconfidence and stress came from not doing things which I should have. Once I started acting, everything went away.. Also, identify your fear, for me losing the job and returning the bonus money was the most.. once I completed the clawback period and saved enough, you can bet no one dares to talk bullshit to me anymore. I know my stuff and I speak the truth whether someone likes it or not.. If you have the skills and contributing well in the team. No need to be fearful.
After working more than 14 years in renowned IT sector I forcefully compelled to put resignation. Do you think this will bring confidence in this field? I think many people are still there in the same position and realised how difficult life becomes when this field of uncertainty bring this fate to someone.
This TCS is bad. Has become worst now
This is all coz of STRESS
Yes. Stress of last 10 years + in school too.
Teachers used to bully me, I was not a great student (which I became in degree clg) so they used to make fun of me. My friends also made fun of me
Till today they try to make fun infrint of my wife, because I had given them chance by not saying anything in school. I used to take whatever they said to me... Now I feel angered, and if I say anything angrily I am the bad person so I stay silent
You need to understand the difference between danger and fear . Understand that fear is imaginary, but ya danger is real .
Being action oriented helps a lot .
Apart from that it is good to talk to a counselor. They will give ways to break this pattern. It will take time , so be patient with the process.
