Adulting is realising work friends are not real friends
Worked with a bunch of people for 6 years - went on holiday together, shared my innermost thoughts with them, tried to create a happy workplace as their boss.. I left 3 months ago and they don’t seem to want anything to do with me. I don’t get it. Yes I was their boss and I had to performance manage them sometimes. But I loved them so much. I miss them dearly and I am heartbroken. My new job I have said I won’t get attached to my team like I did. It’s not a good thing. But I miss my old team. I know they will be hating me and talking about me and I hate it. I have anxiety and I’m possibly just panicking. But I just wanted to rant that work friends are conditional and the condition is that we stay in the same work place and if someone leaves it’s like you don’t exist.
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Office provides a platform to connect with people, whether they want to continue post that or beyond that is upto them. We should respect the way they are and move on, without expecting anything from anyone.
Thats not always true.
If you and your work friends have worked in a toxic leadership and you all resign in similar time then you will be friends for life.
I have 4 friends from 2022, we all resigned within 2 months and we regularly stay in touch. I have even visited ones wedding last year. We regularly visit each other even though we live in different cities
Not true lol. Too specific example. I can give another extreme end example. One of such close ones himself turned toxic lol for my past work experience. I guess too much of anything (eg stagnation) and the justification to do shit under pretext of survival at work gets evil/toxic bla bla.
Haha…love the example
Micheal scott wondering why no one loves him🥲
Not everyone’s Mr. Dwight Schrutt, Assistant to Regional Manager, Sir! 🥹
Michael Scott had a very clever (also serendipitous) way of intervening only when required. Although he might have hilariously botched almost every public session in the office due to trying too much, in situations that elicit his natural response, he has thrived.
And, doesn’t matter to me, he has driven the show to the glory it is at today. But… Swight Acheute for President ;)
I'm going through something similar right now, but I've come to understand that there's no point in dwelling on the past. Most people care only as long as you're around or useful to them. It's best to move forward without placing too many expectations on strangers. Instead, focus on your family — they're the ones who truly stand by you.
There are introvert people like me who love to talk with ex colleagues and bosses but they couldn't do. Have you texted them. They will definitely talk.
Definitely ♥️
Well…. For some reason I wanted to work with you 😇
I think you are suffering from attachment and also feeling not so well settled in your new job.
It's okay to feel kind of disappointed. However just remember sometimes people obey the chair, not the chair person out of convenience and compulsion.
So take a chill pill. Better be remaining detached than to carve some old ephemeral work relationships l.
Sir koi yaad nhi krta kisiko har koi apne perspective se sochta hai. You are living happily, u re suffering no one cares. This is the essence of life